Always Coming First Qa
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So
this question says, How can we make sure we're not competing for the junior year taking chances in our lives? Because I think there might be a fine line there. So basically, you're saying that how can we make sure that when we take our chances, we don't get this basically dissolved into the mountains of Virginia? Yeah, model D, that guy can't be the client have more money than your person, better job and so on, I think there might be a fine line there between those two, there is indeed a fine line over there, actually. So we as Muslims, we have the all the way up to the high rules of ethics, basically, meaning in terms of
not choosing an underlying, not stepping on other people's backs to get to a position, normal stuff, and so on. So whenever we say that you take chances, that doesn't mean that you're going to buy other people's rights, no taking chances, that means you take the right action, making the decision and taking some risk in
that position. But without committing any harm, it's not worth it to get where you want to get regardless of the circumstances. Now, we don't believe in this.
You always make sure that what you do is permissible for you to do that. Allah subhanaw taala. And then the story of
our own karma was the world the very wealthy rich man who benefits right, the last concept and whatever it
is, whatever has given you have the boundaries of this dunya seek the pleasure of the hell with it. And then Allah cetera.
But don't forget about your shirt in this world. So we have to maintain balance between our plans and plans for the
year, since coming from abroad.
How do I ask a solicitor for marriage?
My answer is first, ask your parents.
If they accept that, you're ready.
Don't even try. Because honestly, you're gonna consume yourself and the kind of thing which is going to kill you without being able to achieve anything in reality. So my recommendation for the brothers before you go on assessor for marriage, if you're really ready for it, meaning if your parents are proving it, you have a supportive family, and you have financial stability and so on, then, yeah, I agree with you. If you get to that point, then come to my husband question. But this seems to be a question that, you know, I just have a system and I would like to take chances. So I don't want to miss user.
How can I basically reserve this system before it's too late? I would say take chances by preparing yourself for that when you go on your proposed they would say welcome, instead of saying and that's fine.
So make sure that you're ready for it before you go, you've now
got a Muslim man marry a non Muslim girl.
Last Panama mentioned that sort of the Merida.
Which means the women are the people of the book. So it's permissible for a Muslim to marry.
A woman who's a Christian, or a Jew, and PETA
do since disqualify someone from the 70,000.
Basically, if it's over, if so what types
of authority is forgiving, Most Merciful? And he mentioned the professor mentioned these four qualities in particular that would disqualify a person from being among the 70,000. So in a PrestaShop, model, data, whatever you do, not that you don't secretly have a model
for herself, yes, you can. You can yourself read those. And you can offer it to someone else without them requesting that you can do it for your spouse or your child, for your friend and so on. But you don't ask people by saying Can I can go there for me. That's one thing. It's not how I want you to be able to understand it's not how long if you really needed anything, it's beneficial to you and you're going to ask for it and that's fine, but this qualifies a person.
And superstition also same thing if this qualifies the person from that bike resemble thinking of number 13, or black cat in on Friday, all these kind of things and so forth. So they are some form of superficial people they have actually these days.
How to make up for Miss birth. If you attended my class, divine link last, our last show this weekend in the lab tomorrow morning.
And if you're not attending the class
Well, you lost a chance already.
But I would say missing making up for the missed on a lot. If the person had missed missed out, you know missed out for many years, then they should work hard on their on demand. We had a lot of sooner. Don't just be satisfied with the date of birth add more before the salon after the salon, prohibited time, but ever met the Avila during the day inshallah, hopefully, this will compensate for the loss of these years. But if it just saw that you missed right now, let's say you couldn't remember him and it's all the time, simply this man will resolve the matter the way to do it. If it was one time, and then you're
in the system size.
And we didn't make up the missed days.
Can we still fast the 10 days of the
United pass the 10 days or they're hidden? Because the 10 is the day anyway. So now you can't pass that day. But yes, you can, you can pass these days of the Ninja, if you will. And as a matter of fact, these are not like show one show was exclusive season. So you have to fast forward separately from making up but it isn't Ramadan. But if you'd like to make your days of Ramadan during these nine days of the month or eight days of the future, then yes, etc.
So eventually I will say yes, you can make up to the potential for both at the same time we love
those change of data, which means predestination from
the profits or losses and
if anything struggles, you know, basically, the answer would do anything for a job and also sort of being useful to your pension. And the meaning of this than the loss of power is demanding ultimate absolute knowledge knows that you're going to make God one day so that this thing was supposed to be for you will be actually changed based on that. And it's already been written for you and your record that allows power to extend your age. Allow beginning provision numbers allow to make things better for yourself, or law.
Why don't you feel bad about being first?
Because
you don't want them to feel bad?
How do we deal with this issue embarrassment of being hurt?
Well, if you really try to show off that your first all the time, then yeah, you might embarrass other people. But if you become first because 100 Allah bless you with that be happy.
One time the profits are some of us.
Sometimes we do the work, we don't have any intention to show off to people, we're just doing it for the sake of Allah but then people they know about it, they hear about it. That's unfortunate. So what we do on this case, we start off with doing good deeds because of this, he said no, they will guide you the movement, that is the quick and immediate good news given to them. So that just like good news for us and accepted for me Allah loves report and so on. So it is good to do that. But if you're going to be just be becoming first and stop looking at others and just not easy because your first then that's a big problem. There's a problem with your intentions. If you become an first
because a lot less to that you should be proud of the prophets of Allah, they will send them he wants them was eating and then there's with a companion along with one and he says
I am the master of the children of Adam. Well I'm not being proud of it without being busy. There's nothing showing just showing this describes basically, but it's a blessing from Allah Subhana Allah
so Allah bless you with that and you're not trying to make others you know, feel bad because of becoming diverse and so on. That is fine.
I have a personal experience. I just like was mentioned to him introduction as to the i can i can valedictorian, my badge in 1996 of more than 500 students.
And will I the first year, the first year when I was studying, I was doing my part because I love studying the subject I was studying. Eventually, I was shocked. I was shocked and surprised that the first year I came first and there's more luck to you. So now that I'm known to be the first student, everyone looking at you Mashallah, Mashallah pupils are putting your shave and all this stuff as well. It was really embarrassing. totally embarrassed, I didn't know what to do. What I did in second year, I made a deliberate a little bit I call it actually sabotage for my reputation in terms of degrees. So I did, I did not study for exams intentionally. So I you
Went from the first all the way down to the 11.
And then
they came to me. So my teachers happy they came to me all I still remember
he told me that was going on it that this is something wrong, this is not used basically doing that. So I explained the situation from how much is worth attention to me I didn't in life and so on. So he gave me a very, very good advice. And listen, if you're doing it for the sake of Allah subhanaw, taala, it doesn't matter.
As a matter of fact, if you do it for the sake of Allah, you might be a source of inspiration for others. So therefore, why don't you Why do you miss this opportunity of being an inspiration for others, if you really keep in, then your intention is done.
From there on, I went back again, to my best until the last year, I did it actually one more time, and I got the better position. So I would say don't be embarrassed being sad being first. But if you have that feeling of showing up being proud of others, then you need to check your intention.
What they have done is the heart of the test, basically, we're talking about the actual staff of the activities, that they begin from the eighth of the
eighth, the nine, and then three more days after that. So 10 1112 and that's when people start getting ready for the 13th. So I mean, these are the five days of the hydrosols. And as for the president of the country itself, because he shall hopefully done perhaps maybe Monday, so you will have about eight days if you'd like to do fascinating and so on the ninth which is alpha day, also fasting day, the 10th is the day it's also a day of worship,
but you cannot fast.
Okay, can we let me just a couple of
questions, we get back to this. We spoke about making decisions. Can you talk a little bit about the role of risk? And what stage we should do it? And is there a small
number of asking about you know, when you make a decision, you also need to you need to make the staccato. staccato for those who don't know what is the father is, is when you pray to Russia, if you have a matter that you need to make a decision on. The prophets also recommends that you make will do an evolution as to evolution. And then you pray to record and make a specific draft that's not in books of
suffocation or location. But last time, we made that invocation supplication asked Panama for guidance. So that means seeking guidance from our last animal with Allah in regard to a matter that you need to make decision on. So that's what does it mean? Where does it play in this whole issue? There are two things that you need to make in order to make a decision one is called St Shara and one is the harm that is the Shara when you seek Matura counsel, or basically advice. So you first you have to ask people for advice. And then you make a list of karma from Allah subhanho wa Taala then you make the final decision. So someone let's say a sister, she received a proposal from a gun
and now she was confused. she she she wants to know who this person is. So she asked people and they get with some people they give Mashallah you know, positive feedback or they give a lot of negative feedback. She's feeling confused right now she doesn't know what decision to make. After she made all her part and asked me for advice. Then she makes her a stiff arm and ask Allah subhana wa Taala to help her making that decision. This to her overall is not binding, which means if you didn't have any feeling of inclinations or saying this way or that way, you can still make the decision and even if the feeling is negative, and you take the other side, you still okay, inshallah it's not finding
and it's not fun to go against Allah says that they have any question?
Yes.
Congratulations, thank you.
Sometimes I feel like
okay, sometimes I feel like questioning a lot like Oh, why did you not do this? I didn't need to do this and that So does that mean that my face is not showing it off? Well, when I questioned him like, sometime, cuz I love music. I used to listen to music a lot. But now I try not to listen to music, because it's forbidden so but I still sometimes be like, okay, just one time one time so but it does that mean
right.
But does that mean I have
you're doing fine the prophet SAW Some say that this is something natural
You know that we all have these kind of questions in our minds. The professor says sometimes you will have this question in your mind you say, Man haha man
who created this blueprint that you always say Allah, Allah, Allah who created this and then you come at one point and you say, Okay then Bukit Allah, the professor Sam says, Thanks to that route, just say, Oh, they will I secretly love the shirt on and then quit his questions. What does that mean? That means because we are human beings, we are basically you're, you're not infallible, and you're a finite be you just eventually gonna die one day. So what is beyond matter? It's beyond our comprehension. So what is beyond this one we are live is actually beyond our comprehension to certain extent. So we always have to make sure that what we reacted when we start asking this
question, we know that it's in our control. So when you wonder why I lost my head that Oh, did this. Instead of Wonder I'll say questioning, I would say wonder. So just I wonder why this is happening. There's a difference between question and just wondering about things. So I wonder why this happening to me. Investing is seeking for the wisdom. But if you question a lot, now you're rejecting His divine plan. Allah
says one of lukumi shadow credit, now we are gonna try and test you with both. That was good, and that was bad. Sometimes good is not just because you are good. It's part of the test. Because Allah wants to see what are you going to do with this Good thing I'm giving you like, are you going to be grateful or not? And sometimes when he tries you with something that it's bad, it's not that he hates you, he's given up on you. He's just test you to see how patient you're going to feel during this difficult time. So a lot of these things, there's always wisdom behind the prophets of our senses as even a movement. How strays that occur of the believer who love them, okay, everything he
does is good for them. in Asakusa chakra karasawa if something good befalls him, he will be grateful and that will be good for him. And if something bad happens in
South Africa fella, and if something bad happens to him, he will be patient and there will be also good for him. So the believer also between being grateful, and being patient, questioning and wondering that is normal to do we need to suppress this feed this basically thoughts and educate ourselves in a budget and subject of trials and subject of the meaning of life, wireless Papyrus for what is this in the programs happening by the will of Allah soprano. And again, when you wonder about these issues, it's a legitimate thing and you will find the answer for but if you try to question it, as if your question basically that the meaning of God's begin will lie, it's gonna take
a while for you to keep going with this path being between grateful and patient, you will succeed. And I wish
I can ask my
brothers and
sisters.
Yes, go ahead.
My question was
a couple of cents, but I've never came to consensus as to like,
I guess I wanted to like, or whatever they call my parents.
So I was wondering, after doing research, I couldn't figure out how many requests specifically it is because some people do say for say eight
to one, and I was wondering if you could clear that up for me and if there's certain studios as opposed to a site when doing that I knew attending the bundling class.
You already missed that opportunity.
Are we going to talk about this in details on Sunday inshallah Allah afternoon, but just put your question the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, so I had to lay the maximum and the night perfectly performed in units of two, he did not set a limit for that in terms of number. However, his style of play would be to play these and make them very long and beautiful.
And he was he sets a lot about the best part of the night prayer. It says to lose the long resuscitation, the longer you recite the better the Salah is some people what they do they pray 100, right, ha ha ha ha ha.
That's good.
But if you'd like to have the strong and real benefit of it is that you need to decide very long,
which means you're going to listen to a number of
the profits are set and Len is along with limit to eight records. So he would create a track record for the loss and he never actually added more than that, except for the winter as well becomes 11. So eventually, that was his title loss in terms of number in terms of length, but if someone is not going to be able to perform that length of the citation, then the purpose is to route units of to as many as you wish. What a special interest in my purse, whatever you know that
If you know one source is better, if you could not say long, sir, as you can recite the short surahs many times per half to make it long. So for example, if you only know three sources of the Quran, you can assign them 20 times 50 times as many autonomy counts, just keep this out and you just feel that you have done enough, then you make records that will be enough for your Charlevoix. Is it permissible to have an Arabic the Arabic one was
denied prayers. I personally recommend that because eventually, you're going to be busy just trying to read the calligraphy of the Muslim, which makes it difficult for you. So the best way to just recite what you know by heart, and just try to feel what you're saying.
I hope this answered your question.
Can you make the Salah in German?
The answer is tomorrow.
But yes, you can hide it below the alarm when they woke up and they did not pray. The professor said mommy or daddy had to be called me to do the prayer. The sooner the better magical.
So it's alright to do
is whistling and clapping Ha.
Now, well, I bet actually, palates very ironic because I was reading about this issue just yesterday, and even today in the morning, when I was looking for the subject. The classical opinion, the classical opinion, or probably heard about it is that you know, men should not be clapping. Because of the professor, some people in the south lab, you should be for women. But if you don't look deep into this actually practice the process. All of us have been mentioned that insula, then saw when you need to notify the amount for a mistake that he has done. You should not be clapping this for men, rather just so Panama and women, they just love that you're the man that he made a
mistake. So that's insula outside the Southern Remedy argued about this issue. And there was actually a very popular opinion. It's not it's not appropriate for men to do that. As they say, it is actually considered the non devotional hat and therefore, it's permissible. Sunday semakau, Lucha de Mello him allowed
his opinion on the subject of clapping for men. He said, I don't like it, but I cannot say it's wrong. He said the people that would like to encourage others and so forth, said I don't like that practice. But I just he said, I can't say that it's. So I would I would follow that up in and that myself actually, I would say it depends, you know, so observe this orthodox opinion. I would say it's not how long but you know, it's it's left for the person it says personal choice.
Or just to stay away from?
regarding how to ask a woman in marriage. If you see a system bubbling on events, and you want to express interest, how do you do it?
Already to start from this evening?
Well,
if you guys see us direct mail, I'll make it easy for you. But if you're not ready for it, we'll lay out one thing my advices for both brothers and sisters, guys stop watching TV.
What do you see on TV, the boy and the girl they bump into each other? Hi, hi.
It doesn't happen in real life. There's a specific energy that needs to be followed in this. It's not how long for a man to directly propose to a girl. This is not
a chapter on the subject. And they said even a woman is allowed to propose to a guy directly.
If she sees someone she actually says that he is Mashallah qualified and good and so forth. And she expressed interest directly to him in a very respectful manner, that's fine. But it depends on the culture because it doesn't allow that then start try to avoid that otherwise, my backpack on union Nevada, we get opportunity to marry him or him. So depends on the culture here. So it's alright for a man to express interest and my recommendation that if you ready, and you know that your family will support you, and so on, then you need to find someone who's married, who can have this wife, maybe, you know, as a third party to see if she's interested first. So that you don't embarrass
herself. She says no in your face. So therefore, the third party tells you a lie the open open forum for discussing the manner in this case Bismillah go for it and propose and inshallah from there. She needs to bring them on into the subject, and how that act in a very high official level. Don't tell me Well, can we just be on campus to get to know each other and so on. I know because you're already doing it. So why don't
Because
isn't that I think, no,
no, I've seen it. And I've given advice for money guy said, you guys are you living your dreams, you just get yourself attached to someone in a hope that your parents will say okay to him or her. And then when they say to, you know, on my dead body, then you start basically crying and making your life miserable and their lives miserable, they can basically become the drama. So they're going the right way if you're not getting ready for marriage, but even approach that that stay away from these issues. Keep focus in your class in your school in Sharla. Love is not hot, if it falls on you, it falls on you. But the What really matters is what are you going to do about these feelings? If you
have good feelings for someone? What are you going to do about it? Are you going to take the right course of action the Hara? Are you going to waste your energy on your team because of that issue, so be careful with that.
For the brothers and sisters who become Muslims, and they join
Islam and Muslims. First of all, I would like to say congratulation for the weather systems. I was supposed to be able to come and join in Islam recently. So I would say congratulation in the last panel.
What I would like to tell you and give me the good news, that when you come to Islam, handler galantamine, you come with a surplus, meaning last panel data will erase all your sins, you come with a very fresh and blank page when it comes to sin. But for the good fee that you have done in your life, you will carry that with you into Islam. And
another thing is that everything you do, you will have to work twice, I have to struggle as much as twice as much as you do. Because I was born.
When you come into Islam, you actually had your chances twice. And since you chose Islam as a private from the last panel that will give you advice morality as I don't want. So you give me a reward. Once so enjoy dolla dolla and your company with a Muslim. I would like to advise you that it's a time right now to take to learn slowly and gradually. Don't get too excited about doing so many things at the same time. But just the same time. Don't be too slow. The Mauritian of the UK deserve to become quickly to go on and become independent, it's better for you, as well as to have only one individual inshallah, who can help you go through the beginning of your studies in Islam,
theology, practice and so on. And once you become
strong in this area, you become more independent and you can even after that open up you know for other people, so eventually do your best to make it easy for you
to invest in this dunya
my sisters and I created a youth group for young Muslim girls, it takes place however, the remark or method does not support it. And it feels like it's a secretive youth group. Should we change the location
no gender basketball.
I feel really sad. I'm really sad that the massages are not the blazers will welcome the gathers of the brothers and the sisters when they come through to the last panel. And I wish I have control over the situation but I suggest that you talk to your elders. Now I'm sure that you guys are parents right and your parents want you to come to them as well to become better so they're what talk to your parents talk to the administration to make some influence that this method is not you know is that it's not an auto ship by anyone it's for the whole community and mail us to make it easy for you and I will definitely support you that you guys get together and learn to lead
inshallah hopefully perhaps maybe one day you will have inshallah God the man engaging this group by giving you a special exclusive classes, a shout out for the presence of some other elders in your community
is a must to ask permission from parents in a case of marriage.
A lot. You want to start your relationship with a big mess, then don't ask for. So eventually if you would like to have a peaceful manner to live because again, marriage one more time stop watching TV and demand.
The Cinderella style you know when he fell in love with her she fell in love with him and they live happily ever after. Doesn't happen that way. You are not just about you and her or her you and him. It's much more than that. It's a whole actually family constellation that involves my brother in law my sister in law my father
My mother in law, my cousin's my relatives, it's a whole different world when you get married, so therefore Don't say that, you know, I don't want my parents support, I can do it on my own. No, that's not right. Unless, unless you live a special unique lifestyle, for example.
Or maybe a congress of Italy, my parents, maybe they want to support me marrying a Muslim, or something like that. We have a very unique situation. This is a case by case scenario, you need to ask about us individually, to give you the right answer.
People are still insistent on marriage issues.
Notes again,
my friend, this is a another question here. My friend asked me the other day, whether animals go to Agenda
doesn't matter.
Anyway, maybe you have a pet. And that's why you want to manage what I'm going to show them a loss of power. Now the Prophet says I'm terrible judgment a lot what is right for the animals, and they will come in that lane first, and they will allow just between them first. So let's say if a lion afraid that a dude is going to go on attack that lion, dog went after a cat that got off a monster adventure, they will take revenge and Italia from each other. And then Allah subhana wa says furusawa de become a dust become dust. So they all become dust. And that's when the cameras look at them. They turn dusty would say, Yeah, they turn you into drama, I wish I can be addressed like
this. Which means that Oh, they wish that there have been animals in junior, and not to be just to go to the animals. So this idea that the animals will be judged, and then allow us to take basically retaliation for them from each other. And then they will share it with us. Are they going to be any other animals in agenda? We know that there were birds and other animals, but at least the animals have atonia? a loved one.
Another question about money. You don't want to seem cheap. But then again, the sister has left them out to the dowry up to you. How do you determine the mom?
I would say the best way of doing that it's basically a smart technique on the system.
But if she does that for you, the way they determine the moment is by looking into her class, I mean by class or family. So if she has sister when they get married, how much they were paid for my cousin's, for instance, their relatives how much they visit, determine my hardware, and so on also your own family as well. So if you guys if you pay about an average $5,000 $6,000 Don't be cheap and pay 500, not 500. So you're gonna get that from the average? And if she if she is, she takes an average of five $6,000 Mama, don't go and try to show up and pay 100,000
for that, so be reasonable and determine that
there's so many questions about marriage and looking for actually looking questions relevant to the subject in the last five minutes.
Again, marriage
answer this question already
answered this question.
I feel like too many practicing Muslims see the religion of Islam as a set of mere practices. Let me put it this way. Rituals they consider this life become like rituals, you have to pray regardless of the meaning of what you're making. Sometimes you fast Ramadan not knowing why but because everybody's doing it. So they take it as rituals. Islam is practical and also fulfills the need of humans to become very spiritual. How can we balance out the spiritual and practical practice in aspects of Islam and not become robots
Now,
like subject,
how I mean, that is true. I mean, I do agree with you that living in this material life seems that people there's so much into the union, that they just, they're interested in the minimum of the practice, meaning just make my five daily prayers, that first the month of Ramadan, get my soccer practice and read, and I'm done. And they do it in any cost many, it's the cheapest, if the least effort is required of me alone and daily. Because of this, they lost the spirit of the evaton devotion. They walk in the streets, you don't see this seminar, which means the spiritual aspects of the event. It doesn't reflect interactions. Why because it's not coming from the heart. It's coming
from mountains, from my hands, from my mouth, and so forth. If you truly would like to practice Islam in all your life, then you have to think of it coming from inside out. It's not just about you doing your duty of the present, I'm done. This is not the way it should be, should be actually more deeper than that. So you make sure to show that when you make your Avada that we're looking beyond just the physical practice of the song. This is a reminder for you that every day you are now in trial, and you are basically I must pass testing you with that instead of connection with you know, the last surgeon. Whenever you walk outside this room, remember, Allah is watching over you because
you just worshipped him. subhana wa tada to remind yourself and this becomes spiritual. And when you deal with people, you know that you're a Muslim, you stay with character, you become a spiritual so it's not just these rituals that we see in our massage or homes.