Ramadan 2017 – Save Yourself – Part 2 – Episode 4

Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa sallim ala

Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sahbihi Norman Terbium, B son, Eli ahmedinejad. All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his household, his companions, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all, and bless every one of us. I mean, my brothers and sisters, we know that it is important for us to visit one another, especially when one of us is not doing too well. So on this day, we remember those from amongst us who are in sickly, who could not make it here this evening or wherever they are across the globe. Whether they are listening right now will listen later or may not even listen, we ask

Allah to grant them cure. Remember, when a person's heart is softened, it is actually when they are not doing too well when they are in need of prayers. When they are in a condition that may not be 100%. Generally, their heart is ready to receive any goodness. And this is why it's important for us to make it our business to go out to visit those who are not doing too well. A good word can go a long way, in not only boosting their morale, making them feel better, but even in drawing them closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So therefore, we always remember one another. We always pray for one another, I received so many messages on a daily basis. Please pray for this person, that person

sometimes by name, sometimes without a name. I'm sure it happens to a lot of us. Let's pray that Allah Grantham Shiva, may Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant them good health. Remember, when you pray for someone else, the angels are making the same prayer for you. So it's actually for your own good health. The same applies to those who are incarcerated, those who are in the prisons at the moment, I actually receive emails and letters from the inmates who listened to this program live. And even later on, it's amazing, I wouldn't have guessed this. But for a few years, it has been happening. My brothers, my sisters, we remember you, our hearts are with you, no matter what has happened. We are

not really too interested in what has happened. The fact that the Correctional Services are taking care of you, we are quite confident that by the time you come out of there, you will have corrected yourself. And we are ready to accept you back in society and community. I mean,

my beloved brothers and sisters, the reason I start this way is because sometimes, even if there's nothing wrong, it's important for us to visit one another. You maintain family relations, you go for a reason that purpose is in order to boost the relationship. We have something known as a rhyme or the will corba those who are related to us through the womb, those who have a relationship through blood with us, we should be keeping some ties with them. It does not have to be so much that they get irritated with us. Nor should it be so little that we don't even know who our relatives are, and we cannot fulfill their rights. If we don't know who our family members are. If we have not

introduced our children to the broader family, how then would we be able to fulfill the great act of worship known as maintaining Family Ties when we don't even know who they are. So it's important a lot of the older people used to take pride in the family unit. I hope it is not done in order to draw tribal lines or lines in terms of caste etc. Because those lines are the lines of the period of ignorance. They mean nothing in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala how many families are suffering because the parents think that they are above the others because they come from a family that belongs to a caste or the biller that they claim is higher yet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

sallam says la familia Albion Allah Jamie, well Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Allah. Allah be taqwa there is no virtue of an Arab, over a non Arab or a non Arab over an Arab or a white over a black, except by piety which is known by Allah subhanho wa Taala. So you treat your brothers as equals and your sisters as equals. And you never ever use this because if you do, you will never be able to save yourself from the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala when it descends, imagine when Allah punishment comes, it will be too late. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us the ability to understand well life today. I was I received a clip of a young boy from the Gambia

reading the Quran, they were actually three or four boys. Each one one

To read the Quran, and the Quran was so melodious, I chose the smallest or the youngest person, and I posted it up on Instagram with a caption, encouraging us to do more regarding our connection with the Quran. Who would have guessed that in West Africa, there are 1000s of people who only speak the Arabic language. Did you know that and it's not their mother tongue. They have ensured from a young age that they speak Arabic and they have memorized the Quran better than you. And I can imagine from a very early age, they have competitions and contests in Sierra Leone in the Gambia, in Ghana, in Nigeria in so many places to panela in Mali, such that our little competitions would actually be

dwarfed by the size of this. They have stadiums filled with hundreds of 1000s of people Subhanallah they are serving Allah, they are worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we sitting comfortable here think that we are a big deal sometimes. And when we look at them sometimes shaytan makes us think that we are better, never, ever, never, we are not better. In fact, it is Allah subhanho wa Taala who knows the level of piety, those who are struggling in the townships in the villages, only Allah knows their struggle, yet they are dedicated to worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala. May Allah make it easy for us. This is why we say there is no room for pride and arrogance. You never know

where you're going to be the minute you close your eyes. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us genital favoritos May Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors. So when we visit each other, we should be visiting for the right reasons. But there is an etiquette or there are rules and regulations governing how you visit someone. Allah subhanho wa Taala in Surah two nor makes mention of some of these rules verse number 27. Allah says

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O you who believe, do not enter homes that are not yours. Until you have done something known as St. NASS, you have made your presence known, you have actually sought permission to enter a house that is not yours. Now, this happens in so many ways. Sometimes a long time back. We used to get to the door, we used to sometimes clear the throat a little bit maybe, you know, people can hear you as you're talking a little bit loudly and you knock the door so that they know is there is someone at the door. They would then ask you who you were, it is important to answer to answer that with the correct straightforward answer. Don't say it's me. Because me every one of us is a me, isn't it? So

if I say me, you say me we all Mimi's right? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. So you say your name loud and clear. They should know. And thereafter. Guess what? They have a right to tell you to go back home. Did you know that? Allahu Akbar, imagine you arrived at someone's house. You knocked the door and they say brother, we are a little bit busy now. Please, can you come back later? You say but I came from so far. Well, Allah has made it easy for us. You know, in the Quran in verse number 28. Allah says, What is

kill Allah como Gee, oh, gee, oh, who was Lancome, if you are told to go back, then go back. It is pure for you. It is better for you. They might be busy. They might be having an intimate moment. They might be having, for example, another plan, they may have decided to lay the table. And this brings me to the point some people it seems intentionally go for a free meal. So they arrive at the time of a meal. knock the door. Where are we going for lunch today? Hey, let's go to Buddha Muhammad a man. You know, we'll go to his house. There's some nice food all the time arrive at exactly 1229 because 1230 they lay the table then open the door we'll have a job and we'll come back. That's how

some people think. Well, I hope not. But that's what it seems like right? People go at the wrong time. So learn to go at the right time. today. Allah has made it easy for us. We have technology phone. I think it is against the etiquette of a Muslim to actually go without communicating without phoning without making prior arrangements before we needed an appointment for a doctor. Now you need an appointment to visit your brother's house on a Sunday morning. It's not so difficult but you communicate they might have had a plan they might want to go out so as you enter the door everyone is edgy. Santa Monica masala. They are waiting for you. Okay, what are you going to say? How you

doing? Fine.

That means get lost. Please leave. Can you please go we were planning an outing you have just spoken

all morning. Remember this, my brothers and sisters is reality. Allah speaks about this in Surah Noor in different in a different way, but I'm giving you a current day example it's a reality send a message, can we please visit you on Sunday morning 10 o'clock, they will tell you no visited three in the afternoon. But my brothers and sisters something even more interesting than the visit, to go is one thing, but to know when to leave is more important.

Sometimes we enter the house to panela. We sit there for hours on end, I know of cases where family members dread the coming of a certain granny because she doesn't know when to go. So they say if she comes she's going to sit all afternoon. So now when she knocks the door, she's not welcome. Not because we are busy, but because she doesn't know when to leave.

Well, sometimes we need to be kind enough to say, ma'am, my sister, you know what? You've overshot here. We've made you three cups of teas, we fried you three sets of savories it's about time you left? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Obviously, we would not do that we would not do that. But sometimes within the heart we feel this. Why do we become hypocritical, because people force us sometimes to do that? Let's not be from among those who make it difficult for others. Imagine here Allah is saying, when you want to visit someone, when you enter a home, make sure that you are known, everything is known about your visit, look, I'll visit you attend inshallah, by haften, I'll

be away. And this is why it's better to be shorter than longer, because it's better for people to say, but you didn't even sit, they expect you next time then for them to actually think you know what this went on a little bit too long. The same applies to this particular lecture before I used to speak for one hour, then I chopped it to 45 minutes now half an hour, perhaps next year, it might be 15 minutes. Why? The reason is people's concentration span becomes less and less. The more technology advances, the less they want to hear a person life Subhan Allah, especially when it runs through 30 days, or the whole of the month of Ramadan. I'd rather you leave from here saying you

know what, it was so interesting, and it ended so abruptly. I didn't even know how the time finished, then for you to sit here an hour later say I'm not going back tomorrow. That meant he can choose you know he can speak now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. So for this reason, we need to be short to the point it's okay, we don't need to complete the entire Quran, we need to be disseminating good, beautiful teachings that we can practice upon. And that's what's important. So this message I started with is absolutely important. Let us understand that when we enter the homes, we should make sure we do so with the right reasons.

And we should make sure that we do not overstay. Even if you're to visit someone for a few days, make sure that they are comfortable with you remember, when you're very close to someone, the rules can change a little bit because you know, they really want you there. They really want you there. But still, if you're there for a shorter period, they will appreciate you more than if you were there for a longer time. And I want to say one last thing before I move on.

It seems like the more modern we are becoming the less hospitable we're becoming a long time ago, our mothers, our grandmothers, I hope some of them we may not have seen them but the stories we hear is they were so happy. So excited. They used to welcome the guests, the guests used to stay they used to, you know, put up the dishes and everything else. As soon as the visitors came in, they would stay for a meal 2050 people it's becoming less and less common. Nowadays Mashallah Allah has made things easy, you know, you have spirit around the corner, and you have various others around the corner. What happens? Well, we'll eat together, you know what, just go and buy something from

around the corner. Mashallah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us? May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to be hospitable men can you know Billa he will do me a favor if a new Korean bifa the Prophet salallahu Salam says if you believe in Allah, and the last day, you should honor your guests. You should honor your guests that having been said, don't go to someone's house and say, Look, I've come to you with a hadith that you need to honor the guests. You know, don't say that because you need to know that at times. You know, we abused the religion in order to suit us and this should not be the case. May Allah subhanahu wa taala guide us forgive us and grant us such goodness that others are

encouraged when they see us. They are so happy and delighted rather than those who see us and they run away. They don't even want to greet because they know how much of their time we are going to waste.

Then there is a beautiful verse many times people speak about women and the way they should cover and the way they should be placed in a closet and the way they should be this and then not realizing that the rules of the Sharia are not concerning women alone. No. And some of that is a little bit ridiculous. What I say is some of what people

ait is far beyond what Allah has dictated. Why do we go beyond what Allah has dictated when Allah has given honor and dignity to a female? When Allah has given us such respect that when it comes to the lowering of the gaze in Surah, two nor Allah starts with the males, and then the females are spoken about later on. Regarding covering first the males. Allah says in verse number 30 of surah two new mini Naya boom in Abba sorry Maya fabu Jae Hoon, Danica as Ghana whom in a la hobby Rue de man, my gosh, no, don't tell the believing males to lower their gazes. This is way before the women were told anything, tell the believing males to lower their gazes and to protect their chastity to

protect their private paths. Subhan Allah clear terms in the Arabic language, you know, Allah subhanho wa Taala uses clear cut terms. And Allah says, tell the men to look after themselves. be modest in your dressing My beloved brothers, it doesn't mean that just because you are muscular, you know, you can have your miniskirt on your bicep, you know what that means.

You have your shirt and you're showing your body and every and you are intentionally creating a disaster because you are parading in front of all the women. And you think that no, the rule is for the women, they should lower their gaze my brother, take it easy. You also need to put all of this into clothing that is fitting correctly fitting correctly, not to sizes too small such that your shirt is tearing. And as a woman passes you actually flex your muscle and it tears You know, like you're a hawk. If that is the case will lie what you've done is wrong. My brothers and sisters Don't you agree? It's wrong. You need to also relax cool down, you've got the muscle. The idea is you need

to be powerful. That's what it is. You want to be a strong person. What's the point of a person who's like a feather, but he's got big muscles and he's frightened of a fly or a mosquito in the room. It happens. You see a huge person is a cockroach. cockroach and he wants to run away. What were all the muscles about those all those muscles were actually for the wrong reason. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us so much comes to the mind my brothers and sisters, we are guilty. We need to learn to cover we need to learn to cover correctly. I want to also address the issue of the trousers today, please Let's wear trousers. It should be called a trouser inshallah. You know, not

something whereby you go into sujood and the man behind you doesn't know whether to go into servitude or to finish his Salah there. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. It's happening. And it's happening more yesterday, here in Cape Town. I saw someone I presume he wasn't a Muslim. And look, they're free to dress how they wish.

And I saw him literally with his underpants they were on. But his pants were below his backside well below his backside. And I was shocked. I couldn't tell anyone Did you see that? They would tell me what were you doing looking there.

But I couldn't help but notice that this is where the condition has gone. My brothers and sisters, I want to tell you, we are living in a community and a country that permits you to wear whatever you want to wear. So as a Muslim, you wear what you are supposed to wear and leave the others to do what they have to you do what you have to leave them to do what they have to you don't have to get upset and angry and excited. Consider yourself you are living in a country that permits people to wear what they want. Because of that rule you are actually allowed to dress in whatever way you wish. So if you did not like that rule, then perhaps they might not allow you to cover in the same way that

they are doing that in other countries. May Allah subhanahu wa taala help us appreciate the freedom in our countries. There are countries that claim to boast freedom, but using the word freedom, they are taking away the freedom of people to actually cover themselves. So therefore I am telling you, you do what you're supposed to let the others do what they want to whatever they have to It's okay. those in authority have permitted them to do that. You're a Muslim, you need to know you are governed by a modest dress code and the term modesty is interpreted differently by different religions and different inclinations. May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us to understand the meaning

of modesty according to us and to fulfill it in the best possible way. I mean, so while we are fulfilling our own duty, we are allowing the others their right to fulfill whatever they believe is correct because we are living in a free nation. Let's understand this. Never misunderstand it. So my beloved brothers and sisters, only after that, in the next verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells the women what Amina to Bogna mean

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your beauty. And there is a wealthy man or a mischievous boy or anyone else and they start becoming obsessed with you. They follow you, they stalk you, they harass you, they travel you what might happen, you might incline or you may not incline. If you incline, it spells disaster, you have a wonderful husband, you have a beautiful home, you have lovely children, but shaytan will come and make beautiful that which is haram because it is outside of the fence, you can be having the best mangoes. But when you see the tree next door, for some reason those mangoes look brighter than the ones in your basket. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. Don't let that happen to you.

mangoes are mangoes, and the man will go.

Okay, that was just off the cuff, by the way.

But it's a reality, you cannot allow the man to come you have to let him go in the sense that you need to realize who you are allowed to let into your closed circle and who from a distance. There's just a greeting, if anything, you need to know this. So if you are to show and expose, it is going to affect people I know people might say, Well, I'm free to do what I want. Well, that's the way people look at it, but there is a price to pay for it. So it's okay, do what you have to but remember, there's a price if you want to pay the price, while we told you about the price, you're going to probably be paying about $10 million, for example, in loss, and it's okay if you can afford

that. Go and enjoy stavola stop for a moment and the Muslim realizes you know what the price to be paid is too severe. I lose my family lose my children lose a lovely spouse. And this goes either way. It's not just for women, it's for men as well. You know sometimes, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness. Sometimes we want to show off everything we have showing it off. Yes, a man perhaps might be a little bit more public sometimes but no excuse. Women also have a role to play in community and society that role shall be played respectively, and respectfully. And the clothing in both cases will be modest. Not only that, the way you speak to one another should be respectful. Not

everyone is after that which is immoral. No, there are a lot of clean people out there. There are a lot of people who might speak to you in the best possible way without bad intention at all. Subhan Allah but sometimes when we are dirty in our minds, we think everyone else is dirty. That is also a sickness, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection. So if a person exposes their beauty, they will be a price that they perhaps would pay we need to understand that that price, we may not be able to afford it. It might be so expensive, that we become socially bankrupt. That means we lose everything in our social circle it can happen. It has happened and only later on do people realize

now before I continue let me say one more point and that is beloved brothers and sisters when you are married, go out of your way to make sure that your spouse is reassured hundreds of times a day that you adore them you love them you they mean everything to you and to you they are the most beautiful human being and try and be that for them.

Remember this because many people take it for granted you married you know there is a honeymoon for a little while. And once the moon is out of sight what happens the honey disappears.

Where does she go? Only Allah knows. The problem is you have been ignoring her. You haven't been talking to her You don't look at her you come back from work you're on your phone. You aren't you turn on the telly, you busy here you tired you read a few things you with your friends, come back at 12 who are who are you to do that to her. You're supposed to be a spouse. So fulfill the rights of one another's because if you don't

My brothers and sisters, the very fabric of society shall be crumbling. Because a home is broken, one broken two broken, so many homes are broken because we don't realize the responsibility is great. You're married. Come on, that's it. It's over. Now you concentrate on what you have your children need you. They need to grow up. They need you to be a figure they're for the mother or father. Remember this my beloved brothers and sisters so if you're married, go out of your way to make your spouse feel special. Not just tonight, but every night and not just in Ramadan or eat no every day go out of your way to make your spouse feel special. It is an act of worship, to ensure

that your spouse feels that you are very closely connected to her or to Him.

May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease Let's move on.

In the home It is important for us to live in it up the children will learn the house is filled with blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala and Allah subhanho wa Taala as mercy descends in the home, Allah makes mentioned in Surah two nor verse number 36 of the men who actually praise Allah in their homes. feeble you boo in Edina la

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Allah speaks about the homes and how they are men who praise Allah morning and evening. In the houses they praise Allah Who are those men?

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They are the men whom their businesses

and the buying and selling does not distract them from the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. they fulfill their Salah, they read the Koran, they engage in the dhikr of Allah subhanho wa Taala. They live in their houses with the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala they are never distracted by business dealings, or by buying and selling Not at all.

Allah subhanho wa Taala says they are the ones who fear the Day of Judgment. They are the ones who are conscious of the day that the hearts will be turning. And the eyes the vision will be turning the Day of Judgment. If we are conscious of the Day of Judgment, we will prepare for that day. Because we want to save ourselves on that day by doing what live in the home. Sometimes, and I promise you people call in saying you know what? I can hear sounds in the house. I can hear noise.

I can hear voices. A lot of the times probably your child on the internet in the other room. But sometimes yes, I do agree. You are hearing things you are seeing things you're smelling things. Perhaps you need to get up and clean your home. Clean it in two ways physically and spiritually. There is no Salah in your house there is never a van that is called in your home. There is no Quran that is read in your house. It is a house of doom.

May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Do you know what is the house of doom?

Doom is the name of a spray that kills cockroaches.

Trust me, we wouldn't like to try that trick here. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us.

We don't pray in the home. Our families. Our children have never witnessed us Institute for Allah and we expect that house to be live and no it won't happen. My brothers and sisters remember Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us clearly that there are men who live in their houses, no amount of worldly gain will distract them from engaging in the remembrance of Allah. Brothers and sisters. I'm very, very touched by this beautiful city of Cape Town. People asked me why do you keep on going there? Well, actually, I've gone to so many places, but it seems like I kept on coming here. Although I've given it a break. One of the reasons is take a look at the keenness to learn the deen

in this beautiful city. The keenness to be connected to the Quran and those of knowledge. May Allah accept it from all of you. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us something similar. I've been to other cities that I've seen something similar. I went to the city of Canada, for example, in northern Nigeria, what I witnessed was actually amazing, unique 1000s of people may Allah subhanho wa Taala keep them steadfast, all interested in the deal.

connected to the dean. And amazingly we have that here in Cape Town and people come and they are dedicated and they don't mind sitting for hours on end. Although the half an hour that I'm supposed to be speaking for today has just come to an end. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless us all and inshallah will continue tomorrow aku Kohli hada sallallahu wasallam Obara, kala Nabina Muhammad Subhan Allah Subhana Allah,

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