Marriage – Deen Vs Culture Part 7

DNA is a comprehensive word, comprehensive statement. It starts from a guide to Marsha to mama to a bad dad to the external appearance to the internal, external sooner, internal sooner, inwards and outwards sooner, especially with marriage. Hello. And a HELOC is probably more important than anything. And this is why there's a hadith and Sunnah at the heart of La komentar bernadina Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. So we do a lot of conflict and violence in a certain area, the messengers, Allah when he was sent, it was addressing the parents, the worries, the Odia, the worry of the guardians, and said, Look, if you get a proposal from someone whose deed and whose character, Hulu

cow, you're happy with them, marry them off, don't wait for anything else, don't wait for this money and that money etc. marry them author, character is probably the most important thing in marriage. Because you see in marriage, nothing will save a person from you know, abusing you or from acting in a you know, inappropriate way except the fear of Allah. It's a private relationship. You can't call the police my husband's not smiling at me.

Can't do that. You Subhana Allah He will do that.

But you can't you know these relationships you know, these are things you can't How can you you know, you my wife doesn't do this. So she's always you know, just reserved or she's always you know,

talking to me took took him with me in a disrespectful manner these kind of things. They not the only thing that will make them a good wife or a good husband is the fear of Allah.

Seriously, that's the only thing that's why it's very important you know, Dean when we say Dean some of our brothers I think Dean Yeah, these 200 on the keyboard Mr. Dean Dean Dean Yeah, you know,

fashionable woman you know, I want someone who's you know, got good accent and those days and not not have you know, some of them back home and someone you know, someone

knows about fashion and designer wear and knows you know about all these things?

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Yeah, so the deal is very important just wrapping up this first point What's his first point about write these things down? You should write numbers sure theory I think or someone said, by either

you know, you should make notes even if you know we should still make notes is very important. You know, in lectures and programs we come especially programs where there's long talks should make a habit a good sign of a good Muslim, someone who's you know, who has a pen and a notepad all the time and make not make some sisters makes it the sisters are generally sisters make notes more than the brothers, brothers, they will remember everything but then you know, everything goes away.

We should we should make a habit.

So first thing we need to read, I'm gonna wrap this point up. Marriage is an act of a bird, right? A bird means taqwa before marriage at the term of marriage, after marriage, after marriage, have the fear of Allah in the way you deal with your spouse's, your husband, your wife, everything in accordance with Islam, you'll have a prosperous marriage. And and don't consider this to be a normal routine, mundane act of the world. Marriage is not an worldly activity. It's an Islamic activity. And, you know, it's an act of a bird. And that's why there are so many rewards in marrying many heads, and many Quranic verses about marriage, all the profits besides to married and etc, etc.

Anyway.

Point number two about marriage again, connected because marriage is an act of a brother, a loss of power. subhanho wa Taala made marriage very easy, simple.

In Islam, probably the simplest thing is marriage.

Simple. It's so simple. You have the brother, you have the sister, it has a brother here and we can do it right now.

Just sister can ask the permission of her when he got in his phone your data. said okay, I'm gonna get married someone, a brother. You guys handle our witnesses here. It takes two minutes.

Why don't you take two minutes and then we got a restaurant here we can go somewhere can go into edema. Sharla. Maybe later on.

Just make sure it's Hello.

So it's very simple. Marriage is probably the most simplest we our culture has made it difficult.

This is a big problem actually gave a whole talk just on this. And this was again kind of a couple of years ago, just on this topic.

Cultural difficulties in marriage, the move we have made. Marriage is very difficult. Every culture community has its own self imposed restrictions. You shadow IT which have nothing whatsoever to do with Islam. People meet all these conditions. You have to earn this much money. You have to have this you have to have that until you know I won't get married. You can't get married.

Until your great granddad and your uncle doesn't come back from Pakistan and she's gone there and this one's in Bangladesh and this was in India and this until that, granted doesn't come from here. It isn't, you know, look at the time of the messenger. sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Seriously, Abdul Rahman, you know, Alfred the Allahu anhu was it's a hobby, right? You know, he was a hobby companion. The messenger sallallahu Ellison saw him after a week, he said, Oh, man, I didn't see you for a few days. He said, What's this yellow stain? He had some yellow stain on his clothes. So what's this yellow stone status? Oh, yellow stain. Oh, you know last week I got married. I try some

yellow perfume. So this is that perfect.

You got married last week? He said, Barack Allah Ollie moto shatin Allah give you Baraka bless you make What do you mean? Even if it's besloten a goat? Imagine that's how simple marriages were for the Sahaba and look at the messenger sallallahu Sallam if it was someone like me, he didn't tell me. You know, I'm the Imam of the mosque. You know, you mentioned that they would say this even calling in for me. So so what you know it's like you had food yesterday. You can't tell me every time you eat when you go to the toilet. You don't every time you read the Quran or every time you do something you can't tell the name of the mosque that's how the Sahaba the long I know what marriages

were simple I got married fine It's done. A few people were there. The messages are a lot of it was in a once married. Well, you might well everybody okay? Everybody bring whatever from home you know, just sit and eat and what do you mean? Simple. We have made marriages difficult restrictions where you'd being from the same caste or being from this this condition that condition and I'll tell you one thing, you know, because of that the mood we have made marriages difficult. What have we done we have closed the doors of Hana The more we close the doors or halaal the more the doors of haram open up simple. We see all the unlawful activities taking place outside.

Young people living I know you guys hear many parents here, you know and we do have some parents but you know seriously, I mean, I said when my kids grow up was just you know when you want to marry someone isn't good practice and sister or brother whatever. handler Go for it. No problems. no restriction. You will get married today tomorrow. No problem.

Seriously, you know, one of my sisters actually married my sister.

One of my sisters got married. I got I found out about the marriage after she got married.

Seriously, my brother in law cousin brother came from India on the Wednesday and Thursday or Thursday, I was I was studying in Durham, Barry. I was young, like 1015 years ago. And they were discussing on Friday morning about 1011 in the morning, my father was saying is he I just came back, you know, should we do the nikka or not? You know, they're just deliberating. And then Jim Otto, just 1015 years before jumar a father decided that we should just do the nickel no problem.

They do. The nickel father did that. nikka himself is an imam of the masjid. And it was like good 1015 years 15 years ago. And then afterwards, you know, I think my my other sister or my brother, someone phoned me said, Oh, we just you know, there was just done before I wasn't, you know, the marriage is done just after tomorrow. So Michelle is good. I'll see if I can come home. And then on the Friday evening, I went home, just you know, for the weekend. And then it goes down.

It should be a simple The more we make it difficult, the more the dose of heroin we open up, make it easy. Parents should not impose restrictions. Islam says gafa A suitability katha means having things in common doesn't mean you have to be from the same caste and from the same background, you know, back home from the same village from the same, you know, street from the same alleyway from the same you know, every you know, it doesn't have to be like that. Maybe Okay, it's good. It's good. Right? It may be good if you do that, maybe you know, but the thing is, Islam says one point here again, is like you know, when two people marry, it's the two people marry not the two families

marry. That's another point.

In our coaches, again, the great granddad from here and the Great Grandma from everybody, marriage, you have to make everybody happy. This is just ridiculous. Some of these things. Just make it easy. You know, don't put conditions on your young children. Easy. You find a good Muslim man or a woman who look either this is what the message is on the law. It was him said inlanta Fado and say this is a hadith of sunan of Lima Timothy inlanta file if you do not marry your daughters off to people who have good character that couldn't fit in utensil rld with a certain ID you'll have widespread destruction and fitna and trials and tribulations on how on earth

the idea of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So remove all these restrictions.