Friday Sermon Anger Management 03 08 2013
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The importance of addressing anger and expressing it through professional help and techniques is emphasized in addressing the natural and emotional reactions of anger. The need for attention to address anger and avoid violence is emphasized, along with the importance of avoiding negative behavior and not responding to anger. The importance of listening to others' suggestions and making them into one's own values is also emphasized. The segment ends with a recommendation for a free legal clinic and a deadline for fundraising.AI Generated Transcript ©
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My dear brothers and sisters, a man comes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam seeking his advice
and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
tells him not to be angry,
not to be angry.
Right?
And the man repeats his question,
perhaps wanting another advice. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
tells him the same thing.
Now, I'm telling you this
because I feel that we live in a time
where, whereas there's so much anger going around
and people have different reasons for getting angry.
Now, first and foremost, we must all understand and know that anger is something natural.
It's a natural reaction.
People get angry for different reasons at different levels.
In fact, it is an emotional state that varies in intensity,
anywhere from mild irritation
for whatever reason,
to intense fury and rage.
So, there is like a wide spectrum.
But it is
a natural emotional reaction. We can always of course ask psychologists and psychiatrists and
doctors about about it.
It is very important for our own survival.
You know, when someone gets threatened
and they get scared,
the reaction that they have
is a form of anger.
Now anger has internal
factors causes and external causes.
Of course it becomes problematic
when it
gets out of control
in our tradition,
especially for those people who may wonder why do we always say that whatever the profits are, why do we always have to remind ourselves in the hotbar, most of us do this, that whatever the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us is the best of guidance, because it is indeed,
believe it or not, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has addressed this issue.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us how to deal with our anger,
and how to manage anger.
Now, if you go to Barnes and Nobles,
right, or
whatever other chains they have left, borders is gone. So, if you go to Barnes and Nobles, there's an entire section, there's a self help psychology section.
And you would find multiple books written some of them are very valuable.
You know, some of them are poorly written, others are very, very valuable.
I, I have one myself that was written by a very great author that talk about anger management,
and provide techniques.
So much research was put into this subject.
And, of course, there are certain forms of anger, that, especially as basically, who study anger, and its causes,
recommend people getting professional help for, but that's not what I'm addressing today. What I'm addressing is this average level of anger that we all deal with, and see how we can have the problem some Allahu Allah has taught us to deal with.
Now, having said that anger is natural
reaction, someone doesn't get angry there, there may be, actually there may be a problem,
that there are certain disorders, where people would not get angry, or there's nothing doesn't register, it doesn't click they they're not processing this particular
stimulus,
whatever similar is out there is not stimulating them enough
to trigger anger. So there may be problems.
There may be a problem in their, you know, cognitive ability, for instance,
or even in their sensory,
you know,
abilities. So it has to be addressed, but normal human beings get angry for different reasons.
Now, but the fact that it's natural brothers and sisters, does not justify why we get angry or how we express our anger. And that is exactly what the problem solve a long while ago, sentiment in the province of aloha Edison did not tell the man not to have a natural reaction. Because it's not possible. It is not possible to get not to get angry, period.
Right?
It is not the Prophet himself Salallahu alaihe salam, at times got angry.
So the problem was not necessarily talking about not getting angry whatsoever.
But what really needs
our attention is why we get angry, and how we express that anger.
And perhaps some commentators said, perhaps this man, his biggest problem in life, his biggest challenge was anger and rage. And if he was to address that, if he was to get that under control, maybe most of his issues will be so and that also shows you that the province of Milan and some new
members of his community, he knew them, he knew people he related to them. And you know when he gave everyone advice, because you will find variations in the statement in the prophetic statement, you will find the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him at times when someone comes in and says what is the best advice we give me He will give him specific advice, where another person will come with the same question but the prophet will give him a different advice. And the Prophet is not contradicting himself, but he is
giving each one what they need the most. Which shows you how
relevant the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was how connected the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was, and the reason I'm saying this, it is important brothers and sisters, for those of us living in the society, to be socially relevant, especially those of us who are active, especially those of us who are in the field of dour, especially those of us who
chose to engage
others and call them to Allah and His messenger. You we have to be socially relevant, we have to be able to relate to people and people must be able to relate to us otherwise.
That defeats the whole purpose.
So the problems of a long while ago, someone tells this man, not to get angry, and some commentators as I said, but perhaps this man, this is what he needed the most.
So once someone came to me, and he says, Then is it how long to get angry? I said, No, it is natural to get angry, it cannot be held on to get angry, what may be how long
is why you get angry and how we express anger.
In fact, there may be times where you have to get angry.
You have to you must get angry, it's waiting to get angry. Right.
So that is what we need to adjust and make sure it is in accordance to the teachings of the Quran.
And in accordance to the teachings of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Chateau de la hora Anna, she tells us that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not get angry for personal reason, which means he got angry for other reasons. What is what is the main reason for which the Prophet would get angry, even tickets, the hairy Mama, he will only get angry for a loss of hands. If one of the laws of a loss of handled data were violated.
If people were exploited,
if people were dealt with unjustly, because justice is one of the universal laws have a loss of power with the universe. So the prophet will get angry for something like that. But for personal reason, if someone wants to come and offend him, kind of on the level and he was, he was the most tolerant of people. The the level of forebears the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had, it's just unheard of. Imagine someone coming and grabbing the Prophet sallallahu they sent him pulling him
and threatening him
and asking for money.
And the prophet SAW the law and they said it would smile.
While the companions want to just
they would get angry for the profits of a lot a seller and the profit will calm them down.
This is our messenger.
But if some injustice takes place, the profit will indeed be offended.
Any believer should be offended.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not retaliate for personal reasons.
So even the way you express anger
has to be in accordance to the Quran, the teachings of Allah and the tradition of his prophets. Allah love it there is once
when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam vowed to mutilate
the after the Battle of the Messenger of Allah. So the casualties of the of that battle amongst them was his uncle, and many of his companions 70 of them
and their bodies were mutilated.
Their faces were disfigured.
The process of sending was angry was saddened by that anyone will be in the process of the law they sent and vowed that he would do something like this If Allah subhanaw taala was to give him victory over crush Allah Subhana Allah reveals verses from the Quran
forbidding the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Salat from doing that. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forgives and we know that when the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had the opportunity and had the upper hand to punish praise for what they did, rightly so he could have done it, no one would have blamed him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said let the three Valley Coolio you have through law school, and he forgives him and he pardons and sallallahu alayhi wasallam because he was not sent as a curse. He was not sent to punish. He was sent as a mercy.
So brothers and sisters, how do we deal with anger?
First of all, one of the best
ways to deal with anger is to keep anger at bay.
Avoid anger. Avoid situations that may trigger anger.
Avoid people or statements or situations or setups that may trigger your anger.
The best of your ability. And that is why brothers and sisters, we have to be very selective, we have to be very careful in choosing our companions, the type of people that we keep in our company, or the type of people we associate with, and the type of people we hang out with the type of people we have as friends, who we surround ourselves with, are you surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, make you feel good about the world? Right? bring out some positive energy. I'm not saying people who do not give you good advice and, you know, critique you nicely. But do they bring good energy out of you? Do they help you bring the best out of you? Or do
they bring the worst out of you?
That is our responsibility. And there is this is one of those ways that we can ensure
that we don't get angry, especially for trivial reasons. And by the way, and I don't, you know, you can look it up. Statistics show that most people get angry for trivial reasons.
In other words, if most people work to think about what really got them angry at that given moment, and analyze it in ways, and even sometimes if they were to process it,
and think about it,
and look at it in the light of their own value system. Most people will regret it. Most people, they will be ashamed of themselves. I think I'm better than that. I should have not done that. It really didn't deserve all of that anger. And I overreacted. I overreacted. How many times we catch ourselves doing that. I should have not done that. Right. It was a big deal about just waiting another minute or so while someone drops off someone in front of the machine. What's the big deal?
Maybe that individual? I mean, imagine you get angry because someone stopped in front of you. And you're so angry. And guess what?
seconds later? Right? Someone who has difficulty walking gets off?
seconds later?
Maybe the person that hit the brake and stuff. Maybe they're having an emergency? How would that make you feel about yourself and your and that that reaction of yours?
When you overreact? How many times imagine you know, we will have road rage? Imagine you you you're cut off by someone, and then you honk at them and you scream and you're angry? And then all of a sudden it's the email from the local machine.
And then you all you're now ashamed of your of your reaction? Or imagine if the man himself is getting angry? And is one of the people from his machine?
Or is your parent or someone that you respect? There are cases where people will even run into celebrities, they will be angry. Oh, oh, yeah. Celebrity, so and so on? Of course. Sorry. Sorry. I didn't mean to overreact.
Don't we know that a loss of handle Donna is watching us? The angels are present. Right?
So what I'm saying is if we really think and analyze, right? And how many times do we want people to accommodate us and be understanding
of whatever we're going through. We just need to relax and calm down.
Number two brothers and sisters environment, what kind of environment what kind of lifestyle and let me just combine those two, these are two separate points, but I'll combine them your environment and your lifestyle. Some of us have a very stressful lifestyle, very stressful lifestyle. And this requires Of course, another talk, you know, time management or life management, right is very important.
Those of us who have very stressful lifestyle is easy. I mean, if you're not watching what you know, if you're not eating well, if you're not resting Well, if you're always stressed out, you're most likely to get agitated and irritated easily. So that these are very important issues that we need to pay attention to. Before anger comes into question. Now what happens if the person gets angry, it may perhaps be for a legitimate reason. Remember,
expressing anger
and
punishing people or overreacting or even if they do something that justifies your anger treating them in the same fashion is not necessarily the best reaction.
And remember what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he redefined the strength and power because one of those things that psychologists tell us
Most people, the reason we get angry is because we're trying to regain control over the situation.
And by the way we do even that with our children, they do something that irritates us, and then we get angry. And then we also have become angry and we may become even violence, which is not right.
Which is wrong islamically and legally, so we may resort to violence, why we think or we hope that violence at that moment, we think that it will help us regain control over the situation. I will show them who the bosses, they can't walk all over me.
They will have a piece of me. Oh, they already got a piece of you, man. They already did. They got you.
Right. So the province allows them to help us he corrects and redefines this concept. So what does he say?
Who is the strong amongst you? He asked the companions. They said of course one who is physically strong. They they thought he was talking about the physical strength. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, they said,
No, they are the strongest someone's who is not he who can wrestle other people and beat them to the ground.
And when physically, what are King machete, the Libyan licona
but rather the strongest is He who can control himself the most at times of anger.
When that person is angry, they're still control themselves. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his own example, I think salatu salam, he teaches us in his own example.
He teaches us he prays to Allah subhanho wa Taala. on a regular basis was Erica kennametal.
River when
he asked Allah subhanho wa Taala, that he would always resort and say the truth
and act upon the truth at times of anger
as well as a terms of
happiness, or serenity, and tranquility.
So, when you get angry,
here's what you need to do remember those
particular steps?
First of all, brothers and sisters, and remember that when you get angry,
remember what Allah subhanho wa Taala said, and what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the best of your ability, because if you can't remember at that moment, there is nothing you can
remember, in alladhina am in the Latina taco either MSM por la Pani, avocado, feta home of serum, true believers. When shavon when there is this, you know, state in which a farm comes upon them. Right? They remember a loss of Hannah with Anna and then they see clearly. So remember Allah, the remembrance of Allah is one of the best ways to deal with anger. And remember the advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam such as What? Who is the strongest?
Remember what Allah Subhana Allah promised those who can actually control their anger and suppress
their fury in their rage. Allah subhanaw taala praises the believers, and one of their qualities is well Calvary mean a new wave, and those who suppress their anger when laughing, I mean, and those who pardon or forgive people will love who you're sinning, and those who part a loss of habitat and loves those who excel in doing good deeds. You know, it is reported that one of the righteous people of the past, right, someone one of his servants, is spilled hot liquid on him, and he was so angry. And that servant basically begged that into you know, that person by reminding him of these if that that servant just recited this ayah we'll call them in LA, he said, Come on to elite, I hold back my
anger. I suppress my anger, when I feel an animus and those who pardon or forgive people, he said, I forgive you will love you. And Allah subhanho wa Taala loves those who excel and doing good. And he said, You're free. Go. So not only did he find the strength to suppress his anger, but that energy was turned into something positive, he was able to forgive and pardon, which is even a higher level. And then on top of that, He rewards the offender. He rewards the offender we have that strength if we want to that is real strength. Any fool can go out there and just punish people and and commit a massacre or do any fool can do that.
But it takes a real man a strong person, strong believer
to be able to deal with their own race and with their anger and make sure that they channeled in the right way.
So the Prophet also advice number two saying, Oh Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim anger, anger is from shavon seeking refuge in Allah subhanho wa Taala if you are standing, the prophet tells us to sit down. And now scientists tell us that relaxation methods, relaxation methods to sit down and relax and sit on a recliner and take deep breath and all of that all of these are techniques that are given now to deal with anger or with rage. And the problem is is a number of commanded something similar to this or better 1400 years ago? He said to the man if you're standing sit down and if you're sitting lay down you're trying to interrupt that sequence of events that is taking place
because there's psychological and biological aspects to it. You have all this adrenaline and and all these you know hormones and all these
it's there's there's an entire You know, there's a there's a state of war that is being declared internally, so you're dealing with it.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us to keep silent.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us to leave the place
and not to respond to the offender.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us to listen to the reminder.
ask Allah azza wa jal to make us of those who listen and follow the best of what he said about myself Romani when I compare South Korea
hamdu lillahi wa salatu salam, ala Safa. woba brothers and sisters,
discharging anger, and dealing upon anger or reacting upon anger very often leads to many misfortunes. I mean, two weeks ago, you heard of the
shootings that we had in Orange County, not too far from where I live, you know, and nothing, I mean, you know, violent means, and the way people handle these kind of situations,
does not bring any good whatsoever, and there is sometimes the type of damage that anger causes that cannot be reversed.
And so how long there is this anecdote that I would like to relate to you just just for us to, to make sense out of it and, and I did do some research to find out the the actual source and I couldn't find it says that the source is unknown, but it is mentioned somewhere, that there was indeed, once a man who got so angry at his son five year old
who went around, took a hammer and banged up his cars, his his father as a brand new vehicle, brand new car
just went around and started just banging it. The father was so angry, he took the hammer.
And he smashed he hit his son with a hammer, he hit his son on his on his head,
basically, crushing all of his bones. And then finally, when he woke up, he they rushed him to the to the, to the emergency room. And of course, they had to amputate all 10 fingers.
When the boy
woke up, he looked at his dad and said, Dad, I'm sorry about the car. And then looked at his hand and he said, however, when will my fingers grow back?
father couldn't take it.
went home and took his own life.
So anger could actually that's why we have to be very careful brothers and sisters. That's why we have to take this seriously. And I asked Alan I seek refuge in Him, not to make us of those who commit atrocities or do things and not be able to fix it or, or reverse it. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us amongst those who listen and follow the best of what they listen to. Brothers and sisters, you are presented with a great opportunity today in sha Allah right after the Salah be in the light and I want you to pay close attention to what I'm going to be reciting in the Salah.
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so I want to look
at his issues will be so and that also shows you that the province of the law isn't new.
The members of his community, he knew them. He knew people he related to them. And you know when he gave everyone advice, because you will find variations in the statement in the prophetic statement, you will find the Prophet peace and blessings be upon him at times when someone comes in and says what is the best advice we give me He will give him specific advice, where another person will come with the same question but the prophet will give him a different advice. And the Prophet is not contradicting himself, but he is
giving each one what they need the most. Which shows you how
relevant the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was how connected the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was. And the reason I'm saying this, it is important brothers and sisters, for those of us living in the society, to be socially irrelevant, especially those of us who are active, especially those of us who are in the field of Dawa, especially those of us who chose to engage
others and call them to Allah and His Messenger, you we have to be socially relevant, we have to be able to relate to people and people must be able to relate to us otherwise,
that defeats the whole purpose.
So the problem is all along while your sentence tells this man not to get angry, and some commentators as I said, but perhaps this man, this is what he needed the most.
So once someone came to me and he says then is it how long to get angry? I said no, it is natural to get angry. It cannot be how long to get angry, what may be how long
is why you get angry and how we express anger.
In fact, there may be times where you have to get angry.
You have to you must get angry, it's wise you have to get angry. Right.
So that is what we need to adjust and make sure it is in accordance to the teachings of the Quran.
And in accordance to the teachings of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
I shall the lohana she tells us that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not get angry for personal reason, which means he got angry for other reasons. What is what is the main reason for which a Prophet would get angry, even to hicketts. The hairy Mama, he will only get angry for a loss of Hannah Montana, if one of the laws of a loss of handle data were violated.
If people were exploited
if people were dealt with unjustly, because justice is one of the universal laws of a loss of power within the universe, so the profit
We'll get angry for something like that. But for personal reason, if someone wants to come and offend him, kind of, on the level and he was, he was the most tolerant of people. The the level of forebears the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa send them had, it's just unheard of. Imagine someone coming in grabbing the prophet SAW the law and they sent him pulling him
and threatening him
and asking for money.
And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would smile.
While the companions want to just,
they would get angry for the prophets of Allah, and the prophet will calm them down.
This is our messenger.
But if some injustice takes place, the prophet will indeed be offended.
Any believer should be offended.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not retaliate for personal reasons.
So even the way you express anger
has to be in accordance to the Quran, the teachings of Allah and the tradition of His Prophet sallallahu. There is one
when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam vowed to mutilate
the after the Battle of the Messenger of Allah. So the casualties of the of that battle amongst them was his uncle, and many of his companions 70 of them
and their bodies were mutilated.
Their faces were disfigured.
And the process of sending was angry with saddened by that anyone will be in the process of the law lesson and vowed that he would do something like this If Allah subhanaw taala was to give him victory over Allah Subhana Allah reveals verses from the Quran
forbidding the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Salat from doing that. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forgives, and we know that when the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had the opportunity and had the upper hand to punish price for what they did, rightly so he could have done it, no one would have blamed him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said letter three Valley polio.
And he forgives him and he pardons and sallallahu alayhi wasallam because he was not sent as a curse. He was not sent to punish, he was sent as a mercy.
So brothers and sisters, how do we deal with anger?
First of all, one of the best
ways to deal with anger is to keep anger at bay.
Avoid anger, avoid situations that may trigger anger.
Avoid people or statements or situations or setups that may trigger your anger to the best of your ability. And that is why brothers and sisters, we have to be very selective, we have to be very careful in choosing our companions, the type of people that we keep in our company, or the type of people we associate with, and the type of people we hang out with the type of people we have as friends, who we surround ourselves with. Are you surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, make you feel good about the world? Right? bring out some positive energy. I'm not saying people who do not give you good advice and, you know, critique you nicely. But do they
bring good energy out of you? Do they help you bring the best out of you? Or do they bring the worst out of you?
There is our responsibility. And there is this is one of those ways that we can ensure
that we don't get angry, especially for trivial reasons. And by the way, and I don't, you know, you can look it up. Statistics show that most people get angry for trivial reasons.
In other words, if most people were to think about what really got them angry at that given moment, and analyze it and weigh it, and even sometimes if they were to process it
and think about it
and look at it in the light of their own value system. Most people will regret it. Most people they will be ashamed of themselves. I think I'm better than that. I should have not done that. It really didn't deserve all of that anger and I overreacted. I overreacted. How many times we catch ourselves doing that. I should have not done that. Right. It was
A big deal about just waiting another minute or so while someone drops off someone in front of the machine. What's the big deal?
Maybe that individual? I mean, imagine you get angry because someone has stopped in front of you. And you're so angry. And guess what?
seconds later, right? Someone who has difficulty walking gets off?
seconds later.
Maybe the person that hit the brake and stuff, maybe they're having an emergency? How would that make you feel about yourself? And your and that, that reaction of yours?
When you overreact? How many times? Imagine you know, the people have road rage? Imagine you you you're cut off by someone, and then you honk at them and you scream and you're angry? And then all of a sudden it's the email from the local machine.
And then you're all you're now ashamed of your of your reaction? Or imagine if the man himself is getting angry? And is one of the people from his machine?
Or is your parent or someone that you respect? There are cases where people would even run into celebrities, they would be angry? Oh, oh, yeah. Celebrity, so and so on? Of course, sir. I didn't mean to overreact.
Don't we know that a loss of handle Donna is watching us? The angels are present? Right?
So what I'm saying is if we really think and analyze, right? And how many times do we want people to accommodate us and be understanding
of whatever we're going through, we just need to relax and calm down.
Number two brothers and sisters environment, what kind of environment what kind of lifestyle and let me just combine those two, these are two separate points, but I'll combine them your environment and your lifestyle. Some of us have a very stressful lifestyle, very stressful lifestyle. And this requires, of course, another talk, you know, time management or life management, right is very important.
Those of us who have very stressful lifestyle is easy. I mean, if you're not watching what you know, if you're not eating well, if you're not resting Well, if you're always stressed out, you're most likely to get agitated and irritated easily. So that these are very important issues that we need to pay attention to. Before anger comes into question. Now what happens if the person gets angry, it may perhaps be for a legitimate reason. Remember,
expressing anger
and
punishing people or overreacting or even if they do something that justifies your anger, treating them in the same fashion is not necessarily the best reaction.
And remember what the prophet sallallahu I think he was sending them said, he redefined the strength and power because one of those things that psychologists tell us, most people The reason we get angry is because we're trying to regain control over the situation.
And by the way, we do even that with our children, they do something that irritates us, and then we get angry. And then we also have become angry and we may become even violence, which is not right.
Which is wrong islamically and legally, so we may resort to violence, why we think or we hope that violence at that moment, we think that it will help us regain control over the situation. I will show them who the bosses. They can't walk all over me.
They will have a piece of me. Oh, they already got a piece of human.
They already did. They got you.
Right. So the province allow Alison to help us he corrects and redefines this concept. So what does he say?
Who is the strong amongst you? He asked the companions. They said of course one who is physically strong. They thought he was talking about the physical strength. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, they said
no, they are the strongest ones. He was not he who can wrestle other people and beat them to the ground.
And when physically when I came the shoddy the leather,
but rather the strongest is He who can control himself the most at times of anger.
When that person is angry, they're still control themselves. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his own example, in salatu salam he teaches us in his own example.
He teaches us he prays to a loss of Hannah with Allah on a regular basis.
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he asked Allah subhanho wa Taala that he would always resort and say the truth
and act upon the truth at times of anger
as well as at times of
happiness, or serenity, and tranquility.
So, when you get angry,
here's what you need to do remember those
particular steps.
First of all brothers and sisters, remember that when you get angry,
remember what Allah subhanho wa Taala said, and what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the best of your ability, because if you can't remember at that moment, there is nothing you can
remember, in Allah Deena, in the Latina taco either MSM por minashi, Pani, avocado, feta home of zero, true believers.
When shavon when there is this, you know, a state in which a farm comes upon them. Right? They remember a loss of Hannah with Anna and then they see clearly. So remember, Allah, the remembrance of Allah is one of the best ways to deal with anger. And remember the advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, such as, what, who is the strongest?
Remember what Allah Subhana Allah promised those who can actually control their anger and suppress
their fury in their rage. Allah subhanaw taala praises the believers, and one of their qualities is well Calvary mean,
and those who suppress their anger when laughing, I mean, in those who pardon or forgive people will love who you're singing, and those who part a loss of habitat and loves those who excel in doing good deeds. You know, it is reported that one of the righteous people of the past, right, someone, one of his servants, spilled hot liquid on him, and he was so angry. And that servant basically begged that into you know, that person by reminding him of this if that that servant just recited this ayah will come to me and he said, Come home to Haley, I hold back my anger, I suppress my anger, while I've been an illness, and those who pardon or forgive people who said, I forgive you
will love you. And Allah Subhana, Allah loves those who excel and doing good. And he said, You're free. Go. So not only did he find the strength, to suppress his anger, but that energy was turned into something positive, he was able to forgive and pardon, which is even a higher level. And then on top of that, He rewards the offender. He rewards the offender we have that strength if we want to that is real strength. Any fool can go out there and just punish people and commit a massacre or do any fool can do that.
But it takes a real man, a strong person, strong believer
to be able to deal with their own race and with their anger, and make sure that they channeled in the right way.
So the Prophet also advice number two saying, Oh Billahi min ash shaytani r Rajim anger, anger is from shavon seeking refuge in Allah subhanho wa Taala. If you understanding the Prophet tells us to sit down, and now scientists tell us that relaxation methods, relaxation methods to sit down and relax and sit on a recliner and take deep breath and all of that all of these are techniques that are given now to deal with anger or with rage. And the problem is a number of commanded something similar to this or better 1400 years ago, he said to the man, if you're standing sit down and if you're sitting lay down, you're trying to interrupt that sequence of events that is taking place
because there's psychological and biological aspects to it. You have all this adrenaline and and all of these, you know, hormones and all these.
There's there's an entire You know, there's a there's a state of war that is being declared internally, so you're dealing with it.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tells us to keep silent.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tells us to leave the place
and not to respond to the offender.
And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam tells us to listen to the reminder.
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Hola waka salatu salam, Allah azza wa jal, brothers and sisters, discharging anger, and dealing upon anger or reacting upon anger very often leads to many misfortunes. I mean, two weeks ago, you heard of the
shootings that we had in Orange County, not too far from where I live, you know, and nothing, I mean, you know, violent means, and the way people handle these kind of situations,
does not bring any good whatsoever, and there is sometimes the type of damage that anger causes that cannot be reversed.
And so how long there is this anecdote that I would like to relate to you just just for us to, to make sense out of it and, and I did do some research to find out the actual source and I couldn't find it says that the source is unknown, but it is mentioned somewhere, that there was indeed, once a man who got so angry at his son five year old
who went around, took a hammer and banged up his car, his his father is a brand new vehicle, brand new car
just went around and started just banging it. The father was so angry, he took the hammer.
And he smashed he hit his son with a hammer, he hits his son on his on his head,
basically, crushing all of his bones. And then finally, when he woke up, he they rushed him to the to the, to the emergency room. And of course, they had to amputate all 10 fingers.
When the boy
woke up, he looked at his dad and said, Dad, I'm sorry about the car. And they looked at his hand and he said, however, when will my fingers grow back?
The father couldn't take it,
went home and took his own life.
So anger could actually that's why we have to be very careful brothers and sisters. That's why we have to take this seriously. And I asked Alan I seek refuge in Him not to make us of those who commit atrocities or do things and not be able to fix it or or reverse it. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us amongst those who listen and follow the best of what they listen to brothers and sisters you are presented with a great opportunity today inshallah right after the Salah, be in the light and I want you to pay close attention to what I'm going to be reciting in the Salah.
amongst the most powerful verses in the Quran that talk about this type of opportunity that you have to invest into your accurate and donate generously, I heard that there was a campaign here in the masjid, Mashallah to raise funds. And last week there was about a little bit over what $10,000 I'm so proud of this $10,000 was raised last week, and today the goal is to reach 15 so $25,000 all in total, to cover some of the needs of the machine here. Please donate generously and as the sign there said that caught my attention as I was walking in, invest into your FM invest into your assets.
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So when it comes to others today, evening after mockery, we have Shaykh Fareed, who will be speaking to our community here and followed by dinner so kindly bring your family and friends and join us this evening. inshallah next week, we will have the free legal clinic where we will have volunteer attorneys to answer to your legal questions. That's next Saturday on 16th of March between two to six. So please join the event. And if you have any questions, you can speak to them.
I would like to thanks, set for a sec. To deliver the good, good Goodbye, and in some novel promising to keep our anger in control by the sisters, as we know that this machine has been built. And since integration, we have not received any money from overseas Alhamdulillah we have received $10,200 from your donation last Friday, we still need quite a bit money. So I would urge and please donate generously. We had only two people who had donated $500. Last Friday, we need to see more people at least 500 or $1,000 each person
just wanted to say that there are a couple of things here on this pledge form that I really want you to consider. You know, this is what I call making a sadhaka and investing for athletes easy for us. And this is something that you you won't know its benefit, and how much blessings will come out of it until you actually do it and you let it go for a long time. So there are two things you can put your credit card initially, of course, you pay it every month, or your bank card information here or you put you send a voided check for for a monthly withdrawal. This is one of the best ways to support the method on a regular basis. I'm asking you Shama tala, this is easy. When someone says
that the machine needs donation, it always makes me feel strange. They must shift the massage over lots of hematology don't need much from us. Allah subhanaw taala can take care of it. We need the machine we need this opportunity. And for those who may who may say why, or why are you doing fundraising, guess what Allah subhanaw taala did it in the end, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did it on a regular basis. In fact every message should every now and then remind people because sometimes unless we are reminded and told that we need to do this, we forget about it. You know, the Qur'an knows how we think Allah Allah woman, Hala, Coahuila, our psychology, we all need
the reminder, we all need the reminder. So the reminder comes into play and in so many places. The reason I'm so excited about it is just for the past few weeks and for the next few weeks, I've been going over the if we reach the end sort of Bukhara that talk about spending. And when you see the language that I'm using how I'm law over and over promises to give back, it makes you feel like Allah doesn't need any of this. But we need it brothers and sisters, whatever wealth we have, will not go to Africa with us. And even if it does, it will become a burden on us. We need to turn it right now into good deeds, and one of the best ways to do it is to donate generously. So if I can
inshallah Allah just asked you to do your very, very best. If we do not if the mustard does not lets me know that the that you don't reach your target today. I'm coming back man. I whenever I am somewhere where they do fundraising and people don't reach their goal, it really disappoints me, it makes me go into this, you know, I don't want to say it angers me. But it just I get very disappointed and I get very desperate. Because I feel that I need this as well.
As any one of you so about a couple of you can take advantage of those two things in sha Allah Allah and I'm certain that you will inshallah Allah take care of this lead vertical of equal. So I want to look