Peace Mission – Family Rules in Islam

Hussain Yee

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A public lecture during the Peace TV conference entitled Family Rules in Islam, by Sheikh Hussain Yee. This production is owned by Peace TV.

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In the name of

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Allah please, these days

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this

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piece to the solution for humanity

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every one of us want to be successful, who have family want to have a very successful family and the Prophet sallahu wa salam remind us you have problem. You must be sincere to Allah be truthful to a lot because He is the Creator, he knows. We are talking about Islam, we are not talking about your role, my role, the role of the country, my way, your way, by the way of our last panel who attacked so when you have any problem, you must refer back to Allah then you'll get the best answer the best solution.

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I'd like to introduce brother Hussein ye

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Shah Hussain Yi is the president of the Al hordeum organization in Malaysia. He is a Malaysian national of Chinese descent. Although he was born into a Buddhist family Alhamdulillah he embraced Islam at the age of 18. Back in 1968.

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He pursued further studies at the Islamic University of Medina in Saudi Arabia, majoring Hadith. After graduating in the year 1978. He joined the Muslim welfare organization names production in Malaysia, which focuses on the well being of especially new converts to Islam. Later, he's seconded as a director of the Islamic Center in Hong Kong. With his vast experience in Islamic social welfare and our work he founded the Al hordeum organization of volunteers in 1984.

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The chef also studied under one of the greatest scholars of our time, in the field of Hadith Sha Muhammad Nasir Deen Alberni Rahim Allah today, Brother Mohammed Hussain, he is a well known personality in the Islamic world. He gives regular lectures in the Asia Pacific region and conducts many summer camps in the UK and Europe, under the invitation of local and international organizations. Without any further delay, I'd like to invite to speak brother for saying ye on his talk family rules in Islam

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al hamdu lillahi wa muda who

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your silicone Amala como la comida no Baku

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for in highroller, Kalam calama law

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or hiral had the hidden Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa sallam

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Once again, I like to invite all the brothers and sister to honor the adapt, of responding to a solemn

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the adapt of returning a greeting. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam remind us if a Muslim come to us yet salam o aleikum, you should respond. While llegamos salam wa rahmatullah

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and if a second Muslim come to you and say a Salam aleikum, wa rahmatullah you should respond. aleikum wa salam wa Rahmatullahi wa barakato.

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We better greeting

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nanny, the third person comes to you and say Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, then you should respond the same. And the best way to respond is by raising your voice louder than the one will offer you the Islamic greeting.

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Now, I'm going to give you the second Salam so that all the brothers specially who are here will have the opportunity to withhold and uphold the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam by following his Sunnah.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Alhamdulillah.

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All Praise to Allah subhanho wa Taala we praise Him and seek His help and forgiveness. Being Human, we know that nobody is perfect. We need allows forgiveness every day and every night. We seek refuge and protection with Allah from our souls.

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The evil and our wrongdoing.

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He Humala guys, no one can miss guy and home he means guys, no one can guide is our duty to always remember that we should renew our faith by saying we bear witness. There's none what do you do worship except Allah alone, the creator of all things and the sender of all messenger and the revealer of all truth. And we bear witness that Prophet Mohammed is a servant of Allah and the Last messenger to all mankind, not only to me or to you, to the Arab or to the Muslim, but he is a prophet for all mankind. Allah remind us

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and all the

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carpet and every Juma remind us with the reminder of Allah, Allah Xena, Armando Taka law, photocopy velata, moto Illa, Juan de Muslim Allah.

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Allah is calling upon all of us who claim that he is a believer or you who believe

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in Allah.

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Be faithful to Allah.

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A lot of us believe in Allah, but how many of us who are faithful to him and obedient to Allah.

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Allah want us not just to believe in him. But after believing in Allah, we must try our level best to be faithful and obedient to Him by following one you to do, and abstain from what he forbid. And allow remind us, those who are believers, and those who have been very obedient and faithful to Allah never die until you submit to Allah totally. mentally, spiritually, physically, you must submit to Allah.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala want us to enter his paradise. And one of the condition that you can enter allows Paradise is you must have a man and you must die with your Eman as a Muslim while at the moon Illa

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Muslim moon

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and Allah remind us again all mankind.

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We all know that.

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The worst is that Allah revealed in Makkah, majority of them start with a yohannes

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that Allah is calling upon every one of us.

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Not only to the believers, but the iron was revealed in Medina majority start with Xena Amano oh you who believe.

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But the one in Makkah, Amaya stories start with iohannes calling upon fellow mankind.

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It duckula

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allowing you to be obedient, be faithful to Him, because He is the one who have created all of us from a single soul, from Adam. And from Adam he created from his mates, how Hauer and dispersed from both of them, many men and women, the offspring. And that's why all of us is here today. We are all the offspring of one soul, Adam, and from our mother, Eve,

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and the loss of Hannah, who Allah remind all of us

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that you must be faithful to Him, to whom you demand things from one another. And cherish the ties of the womb Indeed Allah ever watch over all of us. He is rakija he monitor all of us. None can escape the monitoring of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And Allah remind us again fellow brothers and sisters, because He is the Creator, he know that we have a lot of problem, individual problem, personal problem, family problem, social problem, financial problem, he knows. You don't have to inform Allah about your problem. He knows about your problem, before you face your problem.

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He knows about what is going to happen in the piano because kiama have took place in the sight of Allah is only not in our time, but is in the knowledge of Allah.

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Allah said, Oh, you who believe it duckula be faithful and be obedient to me. wakulla Colin said EDA and you must always speak the truth. And also do what is right.

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Now if you are true to yourself, true to Allah, true to the Prophet Mohammed Salah salam, Allah is telling us, He will come into your life. He will then rectify your deeds and forgive your sin. You have problem. You must be sincere to Allah be truthful to Allah. Then Allah say, I will come and help you to solve your problem.

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You have a family problem, I will come

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if you are sincere and truthful to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when Allah come into our life, and help us, first thing he said to you, I will forgive your sins.

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The first good news that we received from a law is that he is forgiving our sin, He is going to forgive all the sin that we commit insha Allah and then Allah subhanho wa Taala remind us, one minute Allah Allah wa sallahu, wa tada falls on alima whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, has certainly achieved a great success.

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Every one of us want to be successful.

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Every one of us who have family want to have a very successful family

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and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam remind us after saying I'm about to the best word, is a word of Allah. Now all Muslim is being reminded by Allah and His Messenger, that the best word is the word of a law.

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So when you have any problem, you must refer back to Allah.

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Then you'll get the best answer the best solution.

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And the best guidance for you to follow is prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam,

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he is the best father. He's the best husband, the best businessman, the best leader, the best in any way.

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You can refer to him as the best leader in sha Allah. And the Prophet sallahu wa sallam remind us again, by saying and the words matter, the worst thing that the Prophet hate most at those who are involved in innovation,

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those who are involved in innovation, who create something who add something into the religion of Allah, without any authority from Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wasallam

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For every in a way that matter is a bidder.

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bidder. According to the profit. There is no hassle now is all Delilah

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colavita Tindall, Allah and every bidder is an act of misguidance leading to hell fire. When we talk about a man and a woman, we start from a man and a woman. When you are alone, then you don't consider you are a family man.

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When you talk about family, they may involve two individual first men and a woman. And majority of us who are here, we are all men and woman, we are family, Muslims,

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they have some who are still individual, but most of us are husband and wife, most of us our father and mother, and then follow up with children's. When we talk about Islam, and we talk about rule of Islam is very important for all Muslim to understand, we are talking about Islam, we are not talking about your role, my role, the role of the country, my way your way, by the way of our last panel Cortana. Allah promised us, He promised us who will follow his way

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he will be safe,

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there will be peace.

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He promised us that whoever follow a mouse way, you will be safe inshallah.

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Now how do you follow the way of Allah subhanho wa Taala. A Muslim, recognize that there are some common rights and duty between a husband and a wife.

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These are the rights that each one has upon the others. There are six basic rights that all Muslim husband and wife must understand.

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The first right is to hire the right to live on planet Earth.

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None of us can say that if you give birth to a baby girl, you don't feel happy because she is a girl, a baby born every child born they have the right to survive to live on this earth. Because this earth belongs to Allah and they are live belong to Allah and Allah on every single soul. And he wants all of us to honor everything that Allah has honored.

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Number two hocl kurama the heart to be honored, the right to be honored.

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Your wife have the right to be honored.

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Your children have the right to be honored.

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Your husband has the right to be honored. There is the basic rights that Islam one all families to understand. Before we talk about our duties, we talk about our rights. And that writes is called Tom Lee Haku Tom lift means you have the right to own certain things. You have the right to own properties, what belongs to the man, it belongs to the man and they have certain portion that belongs to the wife. What belong to the wife is hers is hers. The husband do not share what belongs to the wife. Now every woman has the right to own certain property and this must be honored by the husband. Number four have

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the right to be paid. If a wife

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take a decision to work more than the normal work at home to help the family to help the husband. She have the right to ask for a salary. There is the basic right hoppel casa. Number five Hakuna lien

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the right to seek knowledge. Every one of us have the right to seek knowledge, male or female husband or wife. There's none in the teaching of Islam. shaida husband will seek knowledge, the wife just stay at home. Let the y be ignorant. We know that the future generation depends on the mother. If the mother is ignorant, how can they develop future leaders.

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We by nature to the brothers here I'm talking to the men now. By nature women

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know where we stand.

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We have little patient,

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dealing with children, we hardly have any patient, we hardly have any time with our children. Most of the time our children's is with the mother.

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The beauty of when a mother, a woman seek knowledge, whatever she had whatever she learned, she will convey to the children.

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Because by nature, the woman can express better than men.

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If the woman is with us today, nine days if she attended peace conference, I think she can't convey the message to the children to her friend, for nine months. She can keep on talking about this conference for nine months. So please, honor the right to seek knowledge because the prophecy tolerable for me that An apple a Muslim, seeking knowledge is a responsibility and obligation upon every Muslim male and female, young and old, rich and poor. All of them have the right to seek knowledge, especially the knowledge of Islam.

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And number six, the right,

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Amal, the right to work, you have the right to work.

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If the woman is not allowed to walk outside, she has the right to walk inside, she can still work.

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Yes, you have a choice.

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But the best work for the woman is always indoors at home, because they are more blessing for the woman to stay at home than working outside.

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And the last one has

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the right to choose

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every doctor have the right to choose

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their husband, we can recommend them. But we have no right to force them to marry somebody that they are not pleased with. This is something that I want the sisters to understand. And in the same time I want the father and the mother to understand. We have no right to force upon our children to get married to somebody that they are not prepared for.

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You can propose

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you can help them. But you cannot force them in a marriage that they are not prepared for.

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But you must ask for your right. by expressing your feeling because you're silent proof that you agreed

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the proper sponsor remained the girls. If you dislike something, especially when your parent decides to look for a husband for you. You cannot just keep quiet and be silent because you're silent. approve your decision. You must say father, Daddy, Mom, Mommy, I'm sorry. I'm not prepared. I'm not ready for that. You have the right because Allah give you that basic rights.

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Hello brother and sister Islam. We all know what Allah has said about family.

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Because we are a family people. We know from the day that we have the cat Anita, the aka the agreement with the we and our wife that now we are going to share everything.

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This is not my now and not hers but we are going to share everything from today. We are going to be together. Not only a person but to in one. Like today there's a lot of coffee. There are a lot of tea, two in one, three in one. We don't have four in one yet. Later on four in one there are so many things. everything is combined together.

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What I like to remind myself and the brother and sister today, remember what Allah said, woman T and Kala Kala come in unfussy calm as well.

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Lita como la hija, Allah binaca mama Dada,

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enough exotic Allah IIT comida karoon and among the sign of a law, the creator who created us,

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he created for you wives, from among yourself means human only married human human don't marry each other creation.

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There is no such thing that human married with Jean No, there's no such nonsense.

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Human merit human and what allow one men and women not men and men and not woman and woman.

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Remember we are talking about Islam. We are talking

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About our nature, we are talking about our right.

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And it is always wrong when men get with men and woman with women is always wrong, it cannot be right.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala said, the reason he wants all of you to be together as husband and wife, that you may find rest reposed in them you will find peace, tranquility and mercy. And he has put between you affection and the mercy of Allah, the love and you know the power of love. Normally they say love is blind is true in a way, but when you love somebody for the sake of Allah insha Allah, Allah is going to bless our family. And when you talk about rule and regulation, when you talk about law, the basic law of Islam is very simple. You know what is haram?

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You stay away.

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The house man must know what is haram. The wife must know what is haram and both work together and stay away from all the drama

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and you know what is worship?

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After knowing what is haram, you stay away, then you must know what is wajib upon you.

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Example, is irresponsibility is a mass for both party, a husband and wife to be loyal and honest. among ourselves, loyalty do not come from one side. It come from both sides. The Houseman must be loyal to the wife. And the same goes to the wife, she must be loyal to the husband. And you must be honest, you don't expect your wife to be very honest to you, and you can keep on lying to her.

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Your loyalty and honesty come from both sides. And this is important for us to understand. And for the men, the prophet remind us

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Mullah your ham law You're

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the one who has no mercy, who will not be shown mercy by Allah subhanho wa Taala and the Prophet remind us again, Pyro come Pyro calmly,

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calmly ie the best among you man, as a father as a husband is the one who is always very kind and loving to his family, his wife, his children, his parent,

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because I the Prophet Mohammed Salah Salaam is a loving husband.

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The Prophet is a very loving husband, my brother, he used to joke around with his wife, he helped his wife in the household.

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He washed his clothes, he cleaned the house.

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There is no such saying that anything to do with kitchen, there is a woman's section. No, the prophet never say that. The followers of Prophet Muhammad say that. We say that. And if you don't do with the kitchen, ladies department

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and if you do the children, ladies department and what is your responsibility? Nothing. I just bring money.

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There is not the way the Prophet taught us. The prophecy. I am the best of my family. We all know that charity begin from home, anything you want to do it come from your family.

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So you must know what is haram stay away. You must know what is wajib try your best but Taka llama satakam we know there's a lot of big bad.

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There's a lot of responsibility. But there are times that we cannot. We don't have the means we are not capable to do and Allah will not hold us hold us and hold us responsibility and think that you can do because Allah have said now you can leave a law who knows son in law was he will never burden you with thing that you can do. And Allah again, remind us, Allah must

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try your level best. My sister, try your level best my brother, to be a good husband, to be a good wife, to be a good father. And to be a good mother. You can try your level best and allow it now for us here on thing that you can do your lawn no better than us.

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Now it's very important for us to understand the law of Islam. What is haram for the man is haram

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For the woman in general, except certain thing.

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Why is the thing that haram for the men, that is not haram for the woman, wearing of gold is allowed for the woman wearing of sill is permissible for the woman, but not for the format of Prophet Muhammad Salah from the male,

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the male oma is not allowed. This is just some example.

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For the men, family men

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to get married,

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or a second time, a second wave, third wave is something that Allah allowed. He don't encourage but he allowed.

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Now the woman cannot fight for the same right? The man can marry two three, the woman also should have the right to marry two three, no, that is not your right.

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And you don't have to argue with me.

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Because Allah know best and you know that what Allah say is true. Because when you believe in Allah, you got to accept what Allah say. And what Allah say is very, very true. is very practical, is logic. There are none can

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disagree with you.

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Even you don't like it, but you cannot disagree with it.

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Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala also remind us

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that after knowing what is haram, you stay awake

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and the prophets of Salaam now I have sense it

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Allah inform him cool in quantum minima, the only big common law Muhammad

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says say to the people

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tell them whoever claimed that he loved a law

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whoever claimed that he loved God.

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He believed in the law, he must follow your teaching.

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None of us can achieve the level from a lot until we follow the way of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam.

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So you must know the Sunnah. I give you one example brother and sister.

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When you want to get married, the Sunnah of the prophet is you say you must look at your future wife.

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You have the right to look at her.

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How she looked like

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whether she is white or color is your right.

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Whether he has two eyes or one eye, you must know

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whether she is healthy, because you want to buy something

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you must know the product.

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The same thing the woman have the right to look at you. He also wants to know you got to take out your sunglass. You cannot come to a woman or you insist that you want to see how she looked like and she has no right to see you. She had the right.

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She has the right can you open your ears and gloss over? Okay, okay.

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She has the right

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the same thing. Yeah. This is something that you must remember the Prophet said go and look

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at your future partner.

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The command came to the man but he also applied for the woman because if the man can see the woman, the woman to have the same right to look at the future husband

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This is not blind marriage. Yeah, we must get into a contract that we know. Yeah, and open and clear contract.

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And then the professor Muslim said you can look

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for her beauty,

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alignment Dinesh and also her

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what

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any one of us remember who else

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but the last one is her religion. The one that the Prophet recommend, if you want to have a safe and sound family, a family can be bring peace and tranquility. You must look for her religion.

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Because Allah value the religion of a person, then the physical form of a person.

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Law hola and Zulu. Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah. Allah Allah. Allah Allah Allah.

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Allah do not

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How you look like

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how much money you have.

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Allah didn't look into that there's no value in the sight of Allah. But what Allah value is what is in your heart what you believe and your deeds.

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So the Prophet has shown us if you want to have a sow family, healthy family, you must start from the right.

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from the right.

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Foundation, you must start, you must begin right. Look for the right person.

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After knowing you have clarified everything, then it's time for you to prepare for the NACA.

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The Prophet encouraged that the man when you want to nica, you do not just come come with your group of people, but you should bring along at least one glass of milk

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is a Sunnah of the Prophet after the cat Nika.

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Then the groom should ring a sip of milk that he brought with him, and then he should serve, pass it to the wife, and then the wife will pass to her family. As a symbolic that I come to this family with a sincere and clean heart as pure as a mill.

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And I hope that my wife will accept me with a clean and sincere and also my in laws. Normally, the mayor will go to the woman side. So he wants to make sure that the in law will accept him

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how he accepts the in laws. No hidden agenda, Laila Atallah because we married for the sake of Allah, we beat the family for the sake of Allah, and we come in for the sake of Allah, and they accept us for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And then the prophets of Salaam remind the husband to put his hand on the forehead, the palms on the forehead of the wife and make a shot

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Allahumma inni as a locum in Korea. What a remarkable the holly will also be coming Sharia washery Mahabharata Holly

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Do you remember that brothers? Most of us who have

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have a family now who got married before? Do you remember you do something like that to your wife?

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Do you bring male along with you? No. Do you put your hand on the forehead of your wife and make the arm for her?

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No. You forget what the prophet want you to do. But you want to have a good family. You want a lot of bless his family. You want a lot to protect his family. But you didn't ask Allah to do that.

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You think you can do everything by yourself. You're so confident about what you can do. You forget to ask Allah to help you.

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That's why Allah leave everything to you. And now you have a lot of problem.

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A lot of misunderstanding.

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A lot of unsatisfaction feeling. Maybe you say I made the wrong choice.

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But you don't say to your wife now but deep in your heart. I think I made the wrong choice. But don't do that brother. Yeah, whatever Allah has given you, there is the best just take good care of it. Try to work within yourself insha Allah.

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Now it's very important to understand the the Sunnah of the prophet is our way of life.

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Allah he got married, how to get married, the prophet is here to show us

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build a family how to build a family the Prophet is here to show us

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now after that the prophet will encourage them husband, to be a mom and pray to rock

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solid MasterCard with your wife become your moon.

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Thank Allah subhanho wa Taala now you are husband and wife. You are legal husband and wife. Whatever you do is Hello now no more Haram. Everything allowed. But when is Hallo you act like is haram. When is so helpful for you. When you walk with them. You let her walk behind.

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You should have hold her hand. You used to hold her hand before you got married. Now after marriage, she become your stranger. something is very wrong.

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something is very wrong.

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Before you get married when you are courting with her you know courting is haram but I'm just telling you about what is live.

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You have so many to share with your girlfriend. So many to talk so many

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story to tell her but after you got married had nothing to share with her now is her time to talk

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before marriage You talk more after marriage she talked more

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hamdulillah is a balance is a balance.

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Man Allah always want you to be kind

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to your family, to your wife, spend time with them, talk to them, Musharraf with them. Even the Prophet himself used to have meeting with the wife on otherwise, except the ideas listen to them.

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Why because Allah says so meanwhile Amina Alia Oba

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male and female believers however know why they are complementing each other they are helpful and protector among themselves.

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You should honor these basic right then inshallah you have a good family. Even your children have right upon you. You know that

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you have no right to humiliate your children in front of anybody if they are wrong, you correct them when they are alone with you.

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You cannot humiliate them in front of their friend

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in front of your friend No. Because by nature, everybody have feeling you hurt their feelings, they will stay away from you.

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And it's very important for you to know what is their rights. If you are talking about a family now I'm coming back to the rules you have. First thing you must know what is haram stay away. You must know what is watching you work together and you must know what is Sunnah. And you must try your best to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet. Please brother and sister a lot of Muslim Miss understood the concept of Sunnah. Sunnah is not

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optional, not all should not is option, all Sunnah. There are some Sunnah of the Prophet there is worship. There is some Sunnah of the Prophet that is optional.

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What the Prophet commanding you to do is his word, because the Sunnah of the prophet is his saying his action and his silence or his agreement.

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Now when the Prophet commanded you to do something, this is what it for you to do. It's not so not anymore. It's not an option anymore. It is what it for you to do when he commanded you. But when he encouraged you, then is an option you can choose to do it or not for

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example, marriage

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is marriage Asana. So not Asana is legit.

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What do you say brothers?

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is Mary asuna wajib

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and hamdulillah YG because the prophesy aniconic una de forma Robbie burns una de la salmon.

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Mary is my Sunnah my way.

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The Muslim way the way of Allah.

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Whoever disagreed with this way. He I don't want to get married. He's not one of my own.

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It's not an option, but married to his wife osuna

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men men men married to his wife Asana don't say why did those who say

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ah you see why did you get in trouble?

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Me You must do when you say why is it then you must go for it. If not, you're coming a sin. I commit a sin you commit a sin everybody commit sin

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Alhamdulillah The second one is Sunnah.

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Alhamdulillah

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you must know so now you follow the way of the prophets on masala. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala have informed us Lacan Allah comfy Rasulullah Hassan Hassan indeed the Prophet Muhammad is the best example for us to follow.

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Because a man is even his a prophet, but he's a man. He's a father, and he is a husband.

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And allows Hannah what Allah has shown us the beauty of his Deen. He guides us with all these rules, the do's and the don'ts.

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Now you know what is so now you try your best to do sisters, please love your husband for the sake of a law. If you want

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a family that has been blessed by Allah. You must make sure that your husband keep their beard please make sure your husband

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Keep the beard because the Prophet Salaam Salaam command the man to keep the beard.

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You want them to look like a Muslim man.

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And you must be proud when your husband is following the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam then they'll say to your husband, my darling, you look old now with your beard.

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No, it's better you shave your beard No, no, no Alhamdulillah

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you should be very thankful if your husband is following the way of Prophet Mohammed samata because you say you love Prophet Mohammed. Then how can you disagree

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with the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu taala

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now when you know the Sunnah, you also must learn about the macro, beta about Islamic law you're talking about wajib haram Sunnah macro, what is macro brothers? What is macro brothers? macro is something that I it's not Haram is allowed in Islam. But if I do it, somebody is not happy with me.

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Then if I do it in front of him that is macro.

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Now there are a lot of things that we want to say to our wife. We must be very careful with our words.

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You must remember brothers,

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because sometimes it's not Haram, for you to use certain words, but it's macro because your wife don't like it.

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Don't call her with a name that she is not happy with.

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Yeah, then call her to do something forced her to do something. It's something that she disliked.

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Because that also can cause in

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some problem in the family, the relationship between husband and wife because you don't understand.

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You must show that you understand your you cannot foster the same thing the wife cannot force the husband to do something that he don't like to do is not magic. Neither is haram.

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That means you must be very careful with your word. That's why the prophecy Montana you may know below Yamanaka folly yaku kyron Alia Smith, whoever believe in Allah and the Day of Judgment. If you want to say anything, make sure what you say is good. If not silent is better.

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You want to talk to your wife talk to her. But if you know that what you're going to discuss is not going to make her happy. Don't talk to her.

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Don't talk for the sake of talking now. You must be very careful with your words. You can cause a lot of

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very a lot of unrest feeling negative feelings.

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Lastly, before we open with and and before we give you a q&a inshallah, we will try our best

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to remind the husband especially the husband, that Allah subhanho wa Taala has remind us yeah, you Hello Xena Amano, who and

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what? legal? Mara.

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Are you who believe in Allah

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The first thing that you must do when you believe in Allah, you must save your soul.

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From the punishment from the angle of a law, don't commit anything that is haram can destroy your Eman And you destroy yourself.

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You only eat what is halau during what is halau dress yourself with halala clothes, get involved in halaal business.

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Everything you must make sure is halau to yourself

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because one you are involved in haram we are worried that you are going to bring the Haram thing back to your family and Allah will not bless

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whatever you bring back to your family if is haram there's no blessing.

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And the Prophet always remind us ways. Yeah, how to achieve

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a good Islamic family

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to have peace in the family. After we follow all the rules that Allah subhanho wa Taala have laid out for us. I will end with that insha Allah, Allah remind the men,

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the believer,

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you are the protector, the supporter of the wife.

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Make sure that you don't get involved in any haram thing.

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When you outside the house and make sure that no haram thing

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is allowed to come into your house

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that's how you save yourself from hellfire.

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Then only Allah

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Lee come narrow then only you can save your family. If you cannot save yourself, but you want your family to be good is impossible.

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is impossible. Only with the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala their time yeah Allah safe. Yes, somebody

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like us here the wife of Pharaoh, Allah say hello

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but not everybody.

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Now remember Allah said yeah holla Xena, armano COO, coo Sakuma alikum. Narrow

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are you who believe save your own soul? Now you know what I mean by saving your own soul. You don't commit anything that is haram in a form of food. Haram in the form of drinking Haram in the form of dress Haram in the form of action Haram in the form of belief. That means you must not come in any form of shirak and don't bring any shirak thing inside the house. Don't bring idols inside your house. Don't bring anything have image inside your house and display.

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Because haram

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you want your family to be blessed you want your house to be visited by the angel of mercy. The Angel of Rama will never enter the households of a Muslim where you have all this image being displayed.

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With the angel of Rama do not enter then the other thing will enter

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and save your family. How do you save your family? Meaning you don't forget to pray.

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And you make sure your wife pray with you. You make sure that your children pray with you. And when you pass they pass

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and when you do Amman Morocco they also engage in Amal maruf and nahi monka

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is very wrong for you just a thing of yourself. You go and pray you forget about your family.

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You seek knowledge you forget about their rights. There is no right.

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Make sure that they also dress what is halal. They also eat what is halau they drink what is halal. They only use Hollywood to talk to you know what there is around fitness around gossiping is haram. Lying is haram this form of words and you must be careful

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racing raising the why the children raising their voice in front of their parent is haram because Allah forbid, para una Houma la Roma wakulla Houma Colin Karima no child is allowed. No children is allowed to raise their voice in front the parent even the parent is wrong. You must know how to talk to your parents. They Colima Calma Calma Calma Calma call everyone there is a place and every place there's a word to be applied to be used. You must use your wisdom

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and the prophets of Allah Salam remind us

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our rajul ra in via Li Hua Hua mas o n ra at

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the Prophet is telling us that the man is responsible for his household, his family and he'll be asked about his guardianship.

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Now you cannot say what can I do brother? What can you do? This is your house? This your children this your wife Can you do something when they are doing something wrong? Can you correct them?

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And what are you talking about? You ask the right for the government you ask the police to to do with the good that you are not doing your job you should be a policeman in your own house.

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You should monitor the safety of your children. Make sure where he go where he makes it You must know what he do. What thing that he brings home you must know

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everything you must have some knowledge about it and the Prophet remind sisters while Morocco raw eaten Allah Beatty zoji ha already

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understand your responsibility you act upon it. You follow the law Islam inshallah happy family.

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The wife is the Guardian over the house of a husband and his children.

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You are the home minister, anything to do with household by right the husband got the six some advice from you.

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He gotta ask you for advice because you are responsible for the household.

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Yeah, we are foreign affair, his Home Affairs.

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So everybody divide your role, inshallah you have a safe and happy family.

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Lastly, you've had a brother and sister in Islam. Remember what Allah subhanho wa Taala one has to do.

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And remember that what the prophet sallallahu Sallam always encouraged us to do. Number one, allow us to sow mercy to be kind to our wife. And secondly the prophets and Muslims say what I said earlier Cairo common Cairo, Camilla, Holly, wanna hydrocone Alley the best among you are those who are kind and mercy and loving to his family. And I the Prophet is a very loving man to my own family. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the Mahabharata love and increase our patient and make us understand each other better. And let us work together as a team, not as an individual in a family, or be light or 50 or afraid that one will handle a problem in Ameen Subhana Allah Mohammed,

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a shadow La ilaha illa Anta sakurako wa tabula Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Jackalope, Haida, Brotherhood's Husseini, freeze talk family rules in Islam. But just before we do go to the questions, we have a few guidelines, which we'd like to be followed. While we do go through the routine. The questions should be asked specifically on the topic family rules in Islam. And please do not go into any fake questions. Any other questions about the religion just about the topic at hand? Now, if there are any non Muslim brothers or sisters, we'd like to give them priority to give the first chance to ask any questions. So without any delay, I'd like to invite everyone to ask their questions for their brother who's saying you can channel after their Muslim and German

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Islam.

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Sir,

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I'm interested in keeping beard. But my wife is reluctant she says that you look handsome without beer.

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So I don't know I want to keep beard. So what are the benefits of keeping beard in Islam umbrella.

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Now the brother here was asking us about the beard

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Alhamdulillah I just mentioned that earlier now that I hope that the sister will love your husband in the way that Allah want you to love them. Not in your own way. Where you keep your husband too young. We are worried that other people will be attracted to them. Then you will feel unsecure.

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If you want to make your husband secure. Let him do what the prophet want him to do. Hello brothers. Alhambra, you have the intention already? Through insha Allah you just act upon it for the sake of Allah. Slowly your wife will love you more inshallah, and pray for you.

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Sometimes it takes times. Yeah, so you got to have patience, sabar, and always ask Allah to open the heart of your wife so that she will love Prophet Muhammad first. She must love prophet more than you. Will Sheila proper Mama, she will love you, because you're following the way the Prophet ma

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Zack alohacare will have the next question from the rear of the auditorium inshallah. Assalamu alaikum brother walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato. My name is mujeeb, kazi. And I wanted to inquire regarding the second marriage, that whether the permission is required from the first wife to get married again. islamically when a man is prepared to have a second wife, he don't have to ask the permission from the first wife is not a Sunnah to do that.

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But just to be fair, is very important for you to acknowledge.

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No, you do not want to do something. They create some doubts in her.

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There's your right but she has a right to know, but not to ask her permission, no.

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Not to ask permission just she had the right to know. Now today you have certain responsibility to the other wife, when you're absent from the house, then she know that now my husband is going for the second word that the wife has will have right upon you.

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So in sha Allah, you understand that is not as according the Islamic law that you must ask her permission by you must inform her.

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You understand that? Thank you. Alhamdulillah de la la la la Ko. inshallah we'll have the next question from the rear of the auditorium with the sisters and j Dai Li. Whatever you ask was that when you earlier mentioned that, you know, our husband has a right to know

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His wife the way she looks her language, whether she's healthy. And then you mentioned, the most important thing would be her religion to know what religion is she from? So do you actually mean was that she has to be from Islam or can you marry somebody from outside the religion in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam, Allah and our Prophet remind us, that the man, the believer should marry with the believers. The believer, married with the believer, why? Because we want to have a sound and healthy family.

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There is the best way to build a family.

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You understand that says, so what the prophet is trying to say, Look into their religion, that mean look into the law, that she must be a Muslim, and a good Muslim is possible. Yeah, a good Muslim, a practicing Muslim.

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You understand that? Hum De La Colonia? A Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato JazakAllah. Shaikh, I just want to ask you one question. It's about the pray time. Like you said, the husband and the wife should pray together right? In the house, if possible. So when they are praying, there needs to be somebody who should call the Zan.

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And I had a doubt like, how it's going to be done. Like, if there is only husband and wife, who's gonna call the Zan, and who's gonna lead the prayer. So can you just clarify that please? Wait here? Are you asking that if your husband and wife should pray together example, if you miss the JAMA is the most then you spray in the house with the wife. Of course, it's always better to pray in a drama than praying alone.

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The man has been encouraged to pray in the malls, the wife at home, but it so happened that you delayed me of something, maybe you missed the jump. So you to come back and pray with your wife is better. Now when you pray with your wife, should you call for Amazon? Is that where you

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show your call for Amazon? According to the hadith of Sahar Muslim, yes, the prophet encouraged us to call for Amazon. The Amazon not necessarily be so loud, just within the family in the house. You don't have to call louder than other people who come into your house

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just for you is a Sunnah. That means Amazon is a Sunnah. So is as soon as that the Prophet encourage you to do it. And it's just between you and your wife. Yes, you can call her son and you may Tama he become the mom for her.

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So it's the man's job to do it to do the Ozon as well as the karma. Yes, as an income. inequality.

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inshallah, this next question will be the last question because we're running short due to time. So this will be the last one and then we'll go for our break. inshallah, please go ahead with your question. I am about the number

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of MIT consultant by profession. I would like to clarify, the thing is, for example, if the wife asks to a husband for something, and the husband simply denies it by saying that my mother is not going for that. A wife asking something from the husband and the husband answer says that, no, you're not allowed to go because your mother in law is not allowing you to go here. And they're like going to her parents house. The wife is going to visit her mother. Yeah. So she asked for permission from the husband. Yeah. Now the husband does agree. Yeah. Do not allow her to go. Yeah. Why? The husband says that his mother is not allowing his wife to go to her house or the husband is saying

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that my mother don't allow you to visit your mother.

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Please get some a mom to talk to your mother.

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Your mother must be reminded that she has no right to do that.

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You must remember when you got married with a woman, you are not just marrying her. You are also marrying her family. Her mother Her father is just like your mother and your father. Even after you divorce this girl, this woman your wife. Now her father, your father in law, your mother in law you cannot divorce with them

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is they will still become your law.

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So that is why I say is you start from a sound ground islamically from the beginning. You don't have this problem, because it's not right for the husband to stop the war.

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from visiting her parents she got responsibility towards her parents.

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Is your other husband duty when they're watching? I want to see my parent quickly. He would try to help her. Bring her they're

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not to stop her is wrong for you to do there is

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no it's not right. Even the prophecy Yes, the wife must obey the husband. But patrulla mahalo

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La Palma, Rafi Masha Tila, the prophecy you cannot obey somebody doing something against what Allah and the Prophet allow them to do.

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So fellow brother and husband, please don't stop your wife visiting her family, especially her mother, you should encourage them. Sometimes they have some daughter, who is a bit and

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no one they have a good family they forget about the parent, you should encourage them to go back. You should encourage them in law to come and stay with you. We view that as what Islamic family is not just husband and why but both family is mush together. May Allah bless us brother inshallah. And may Allah give guidance to your mom or to the mother or not to your mother, maybe it's not your mother inshallah, to all the mothers Subhana Allah Hamada Hamdi shadowline elantas Africa to boiling