Heart Therapy 13 – Arrogance

Ali Albarghouthi

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The Messenger said: (The one who has an ant’s weight of arrogance in their heart shall not enter paradise.) A man said: one loves that his clothes be nice and his shoes be nice. He said: (Allah is Beautiful and loves beautification. Arrogance is the rejection of the truth and the belittling of people.) Reported by Muslim (91)

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The speakers emphasize the importance of "by profession" and "by self-acceptance" in achieving confidence, while avoiding luxuries and luxury. They stress the need for evidence to support their argument and the importance of learning to become a worshipper. The negative impact of drinking alcohol on society is also highlighted, with studies showing that it can lead to suicide and other health issues. The speakers emphasize the importance of avoidingoppressured conversations in relationships and reexamining behavior.

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I'm about so today's Hadith inshallah is dealing

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with one of those diseases or one of those since

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the diseases of the heart that we talked about briefly last time.

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And remember that last time we spoke about the foundational sense or the foundational diseases of the heart, meaning that they generate other diseases. And then we become like the SS or by bike the foundation like the source by which other diseases multiply. So we talked last time about a show

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which is intense greed, and envy and desire.

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And today inshallah we'll be talking about that other disease which is given, which is arrogance, or pride. So in this Howdy, this is a headache number 13.

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So he says, salaat he was sending them this is afforded in Muslim that the one who has an answer the weight of arrogance in his heart. So this is the law. So there could be an ant or could be just a speck of a speck of dirt right? So the one who has that in his heart of arrogance, will not enter Paradise will not enter Jenna.

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So a person asked in Nevada, your headboard and yakun on your corner. So who has an owner who hasn't? So then there's a person interjected and asked a question. And he said, Well, one of us or some of us may like that their clothes would be nice. And their shoes would be nice. So he's asking is this arrogance that we like nice things to wear nice things and possess nice things is this arrogance. And the prophets a lot of them said color in Aloha, Jamil on your headboard, Jamal al key bro bottle hottie wantonness so he says Indeed Allah is Jamil is beautiful. And he loves Jamal. She's beauty and beautification.

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But cabe on the other hand, but will keep his bottle happy rejection of the truth Welcome to NASA, the despising or the belittling of people. So this is how we sell a lot he recently defined it

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and we'll go through inshallah, the Hadith and try and try to extract from it as much benefit as we can. Now, what's important to note here is that like with the last hubby's about sure

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kibra here is presented as the opposite of EMA. Remember how we explained that is the opposite of a man. And the more that you have that the less of the other cable also is presented as the opposite of email. If you have it in your heart, then that is a reason for a person to go to jahannam and not enter gender, which is the opposite that because if it's if you have a man, that's the reason for you to go into gender and to be safe from Hellfire, so this is the opposite. So it tells us here that arrogance or kid is a barrier between us and the truth.

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For us to recognize it and for us to accept it, and to apply it.

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Where does arrogance come from? So what is arrogance? Or what is

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right? So cable really the word cab is for something to be big. If you want to narrow big status about something that it is big. What do you say Kabir writes this thing, his career, even in the soil, in the garden, when you say or in the solid, Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Allah is the Greatest, the biggest. So kibra is what is for you to feel that you are the biggest and the most important,

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right? That you possess, something that the other person does not possess. And because of that, you're better than the other person. So there is given to you become great in yourself. So there is always a process of comparison between you and someone else. Or you're always looking at someone and then deciding I have something they don't have that thing. And because of their life, and because of my possession, I'm better than they are

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Now, when we believe this, this opens the door to so many other sins,

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to so many other things, we know. Now the least of them, of course, is the sin of anger. He become angry when you find that someone is actually having or enjoying things that you don't have

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envy. you envy them, right, because in your mind, in your heart, you're supposed to be better and the best. So there's confirmation, you find that someone who actually has more money than you more respect than you

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write

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a better car than you by profession, then you

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a better degree or a better

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job or is going to be promoted, whatever it is, and you're supposed to be better when they have that you become angry, then you become envious, then you hate them because of it. And you're supposed to love for them what you love for yourself, and you're supposed to love them. If they are believers, if they are Muslims, you're supposed to love for them for what you love for yourself, and love them for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But no, you'll start hating them. And then any other sin actually, that will facilitate you feeling better about yourself, will be allowed by that. So it can lead to rejection of the truth by a person who has given up supposed to know everything. How can you

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accept advice from anyone?

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So if I'm supposed to know, and everyone else around me, at least is beneath me, they don't know as much as I know, they're not as smart as I am. How can they come and tell me that I'm wrong? If they tell me that I'm wrong, it means that we're equals or they're better, I can't accept that from them see, and reject the truth because of it. Even sometimes, if it is the actual truth coming directly from the Quran and the Sunnah. But the fact that it has come from someone else, about you, exposing my own weakness and my own faults, that's not something that I can accept. So I'll reject it.

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So be the rejection of the truth, and highlighting the mistakes of other and denying my own mistakes. So I've become blind to my own mistakes, I can't see them, and I will hide them and if someone tries to tell me about them, I'll deny them and he becomes a default not me.

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And it is such a severe mercy of the heart and Allah subhanho wa Taala does not like it such as the vmrc of the heart. I want to bring to you what even taymiyah Rahim Allah said,

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he said will not see it too. I want to read that part in Arabic and the non translated will not see it three kebari would be what we have amin, ma see it should be

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says that that sin of arrogance and admiring yourself and showing off is greater than the sin of drinking alcohol.

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So see here, I mean, immediately when you hear something like this, it is very shocking because when you think of the sin of drugs, the alcohol drinking alcohol, it's a kabiru. It's a major sin. Once you see someone doing it, he's out in your mind. Oh, he's out. He's sinful. He's this and he's that. But that is because it's a public sin. It's an external sin. He's saying this internal sin is greater than this sin. Then he says for sharable Hershey ecoman rugby acabo de manos Simon moussaka, JB Mora, he says the one who drinks alcohol and this is of course, it's not an invitation for us to start drinking alcohol. Not at all, but he's saying, contrast or compare and contrast. So the one

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who drinks alcohol, but he's afraid of Allah subhanho wa Taala, when he's doing regretting that he is doing it, closer to the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala, than the person who is fasting, but he's arrogant and admires what he's doing and showing off with his fasting, or with his worship in general, all of them and then one, and not.

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So one who thinks that worship is just that external form of that worship is ignorant.

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That's something that we said the first day, if you remember, in the first half, as we said, that is not worship is not just simply or mostly, or most importantly, that external

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worship is most importantly, that internal part of it, which we neglect, so we perfect that external part. And we're careful what people see and what they don't see because they see us, but the part that no one sees except us and Allah Subhana Allah, that's the one that is most neglected. So he says, if you think that worship is just that external part, then that person is ignorant, but it's no party yet another thought we thought we will hopefully Raja is lost in India he was Sugar Daddy, Mommy methanol, and Botanica see annual the annual saga. So it says the scription of worship right includes the worship of the heart. Bye

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Fear and hope and sincerity to Allah and thanking him more so that it includes that worship of the of the body such as fasting and prayer night prayer and saga. So when you think of worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the most important part of that worship is the worship of the heart, and that's very significant there. So the persons actually committing an act

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of

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Kibera of arrogance, is committing a great sin. It's a major sin. It's a major sin that Allah subhanho wa Taala hates. And there is a difference here you see the difference between these two people that he had talked about? The person who made committed sin, but at the same time is what fearful, regretful, he may not be able to stop but that's what's happening with him. The other person is arrogant because of that worship that he's committing the first person.

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His heart is still attached to Allah Subhana Allah despite the sin, He only knows that Allah is the one who can save him. And he looks at himself and he hates what he's doing. Yeah, and he is there enough, sir, looks at math himself and despises what he's doing. And he's not proud of it. And he knows that it's not my actions that can save me but also only the mercy of Allah so he's always throwing himself at the mercy of Allah, Allah save me. Yeah, I'll take care of me, I'll help me from that sin. That is the attitude that Allah subhana wa tada loves, from any servant of his, even when you commit to

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the other person, on the other hand, when you start to commit a thought of Allah worship of Allah, and you rely on it, and you trust it, and if you get to say to yourself, oh, this is beautiful.

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You know, no one else is doing this. This is going to save me. No one is as good as I am. Allah sees this arrogance growing in this person's heart. And the more arrogance he has, the more distance he puts between him and Allah subhanaw taala because he's not he doesn't have this Myskina humility before a lot of is coming with with pride. I've done and I've committed what others don't have and stand before Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, I'm praiseworthy. So he doesn't look at what he's doing. And suspected or maybe you know, there was not enough of it. Me my intention wasn't good enough. Maybe I should do more. No, he had fulfilled what he's supposed to do a lot when he looks at that

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Allah Subhana Allah doesn't love it.

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And

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Pamela says, then beaten, beaten a menos de poner. Dima, I have Boolean abita intervals because he says that I if I were to sleep the night, but isn't don't pray at night The sooner and wake up in the morning, feeling regretful and sorry, that I've missed that opportunity is more beloved to me that I would pray at night and then in the morning, I would admire what I have done.

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Because when you admire it, you ruin it.

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You understand what happens that when you admire it when you start looking at yourself, right? Instead of you looking at a loss penalty and saying I hope that allow it accepted, because there's a lot of things that when we do our incomplete my Nia is my new year I was watching a lot of panel data when I did it was it all for Allah did I do everything that I'm supposed to do? So the person who has given starts having this man seeing his favor seeing his actions, I've done this and Allah is going to accept it from me. So he saved. He doesn't know that.

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But the person who is regretful the person who is fearful is the heart that is close to Allah subhanho wa Taala, even when the person has committed or has done a worship of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So as we said, when a person who has arrogance, they will reject the truth, even if it has come from Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And who is the person who when we will talk about that last time who is the person who committed that sin first?

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At least, right? So this was his sin. When Adam was being created, he looked at him and he envied him. And he believed that he is better than him because of the material by which he was created. This is from fire. This is from mud. So this substance is more honorable than that substance. There is no way that Allah is going to make him better than I am. And if he is to elevate him, or make him on top of me, I will disobey Him. That is what's going in his head. That's why when Allah subhana wa dalis tells him and I can let us do that. What prevented you from prostrating when I commanded you He says, I am better than him. Then Allah says, What harlot minha Maya punakha Antartica Baraka

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descent from it from Paradise because you are not allowed and you are not it does not fit that place.

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For you to have arrogance in it, for hold in the communal

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leave because you are among the humiliated and the despised, those are who are being demoted. So since the panela here the punishment of

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that is when you think that your great Allah demotes you

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and the opposite is true when you think that you are insignificant in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala along grazes you

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so at least thought that he was great.

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And where was he? He was with the angels and he had access to Jenna he was speaking to Allah Subhana Allah, you know, how higher can you get by worshiping with the angels of Allah subhana wa Tada. He thought he was great. He lost all of it, and was demoted to this earth, and became the loneliest creature.

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But the most low among the creatures of Allah subhana wa tada became, at least because of that arrogance, so to come from the highest position to the lowest position, from the person who was with the angels praising Allah subhanho wa Taala, to a person who gets condemned by Allah in the Quran by condemned by every Muslim, and we seek refuge from that, first

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being, see what happened, and how he did that to himself. Sunday. That's why you know, some of the elements that if someone were to plot against him, he would not be able to do to him more than what he did to himself. Like if your enemy were to plot against you would not be able to do more to you than what he did at least did to himself would not be able to harm up with more than that. So cable to have

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to have arrogance destroys you and destroys your good deeds, the same way that it destroys or had destroyed a police because it's the same principle. It is not a place where the people have given less what Allah said there in the IRA, my akula cantata, this is not a place for people who have given any towards a new housekeeper in Paradise is not their abode. It's not their home.

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What happens to them on

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the day of judgment?

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Allah subhana wa tada

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will resurrect them will bring them together and resurrect those who had arrogance as the Prophet sallallahu send them says in the Hadith, and said that very few saward vija

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yaksha lumen Colima can your shadow Muta? kabiru, Naomi Tamati I'm very sorry region. So the arrogant people on the day of judgment will be gathered, resurrected and gathered the size of ants in the form of human beings.

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You have Shamu looming crema can. So humiliation comes to them from every site

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that you can think about it, that's exactly the opposite of what they were doing.

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So Cuba is what it is to be big, and powerful, and very significant. But Allah shows them that in reality, you are very small in the dunya in my in my sight, you are very small in this dunya you are not dear to me, because of the rejection of the truth that you had and because of how you looked at other people, so you're very insignificant to me. So on the Day of Judgment, to show them what they are actually.

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And to have them taste what they need other people taste he will resurrect them as adults, and people will be stepping on them as they were stepping on people, either physically in reality or figuratively. Do Allah Allah will make other people step on them on the Day of Judgment so they will look like ants and humiliation they will receive that from every side.

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Allah subhana wa Adana says that this caper is the attribute of who of the Cooper who rejected the message of our last panel data.

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And he says here, under the New Jersey Luna, she is Isla

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it sort of Allah introduces they're in the middle of this idea and he says, Those who are disputing and rejecting the idea to Allah, the evidence that comes to them and they're rejecting it and arguing about it and they don't want to hear it, then they don't apply it he says,

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kill them often. This is something that Allah hates, and the believers hate, and Allah says, But Allah so that Allah subhanho wa Taala sealed the hearts of every arrogant person.

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that the reason why they are doing it is arrogance.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala also says that the sign or the consequence of this arrogant self report, as

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At the end of the night the kupuna will be

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our turn away from my

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from recognizing them and believing in them. Anyone who has arrogance in their heart, Alenia Takapuna

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So if a person has this arrogance in his heart,

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he may lose the ability to see the truth as the truth and to reject the truth towards an ultimate panel down and this is the I actually that I was looking for I wanted to mention it before I talked about the other area

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in the Medina yuja de Luna, he is

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a term infused people Muhammad Ali, those who are rejecting and disputing the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Without any proof,

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they are doing that because of a cube in their hearts.

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And they will not be able to reach the conclusions or the aims of the keeper of their hearts. That is, why are they rejecting the Ayat of Allah subhanho wa Taala when that when the AI comes and tells them this, or when the son of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam comes and tells them this? Why do they start arguing against it?

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So Allah Subhana, Allah is saying here, when they are arguing against them, they don't want to hold on to it. They're doing it because of the capital that they have in their hearts.

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They're holding on to something else that they love, and they don't want to accept this. And that's what they're arguing about it. Because he says the result and there is no evidence that they have, they just want to reject the truth. He says there is some kibble inside of them.

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And but he says muhimbi bad is he though they are trying to oppose the truth.

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They will not be able to concrete, even if they hate it, they can hate it. But they will not be able to concrete. And that is an animal from Allah subhanho wa Taala that if you don't have the evidence with you, the truth is coming to you. You don't have evidence and you're arguing against it or going against it that it's because of pride. Allah says you will not be successful. You will not be successful.

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And that's a blob of men of savani. Rahim Allah said Metallica, hadn t enemies as soon as indelible in Phoenix,

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says there is no one who leaves anything from the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, except for a cable that he has in his heart.

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That is when you receive it, and you say, I'm not going to follow it a particular sinner, and it's an authentic sinner. What stops you

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what stops you either an opinion that I have, that I think is more powerful is an opinion that I have, that I think is more valid than this.

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So I'm not going to follow it. Or an emotion that I have that I think is more valid than this sooner, so I'm not going to follow it. I'm not talking necessarily about weakness. You sometimes hear about a signal or hear about an idea, but sometimes we're weak. We don't follow it. But this is a rejection. I'm not going to follow you argue against it. I'm not going to do this what is this thing that is stopping you from doing it? As with the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam when someone was eating with his left hand, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told them eat with your right.

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He said, No, I can't.

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And they said in the moment, lol cable, only thing that stopped him from it is arrogance.

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He could eat with his right hand he could change but the only thing that he didn't want to listen, arrogance, I'm not going to listen to this. That's the problem, right? Because sometimes someone could bring you a hadith and just because he brought it.

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If you found it on your own, you'd be fine. You follow it? But he brought it Why would he brought it? Why would he teach it to me? Why would he want it and I okay, no, maybe not, I won't, I won't do it. So here the intention is not I want to follow the sin of the prophets of Allah. But I want to follow what I know.

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And what would illustrate my knowledge and my eminence and etc, etc. So it gets rejected. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says as a response to that, he says, Listen, I

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mean, will you not be able to hold on you're fired, so he wasn't able to lift his hand afterwards.

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So it's a panel law, you know, anyone, anyone? You have to we have to question ourselves an old time that when I find something in the Quran and they say no to it,

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like a bowl No. Something from the center of the profits only seminar I say no to it like a direct No. The reason why I'm saying no to it, is because there is this sort of arrogance in my heart that is preventing me from seeing the truth.

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truth from following the truth.

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And if there is not that, then we would more easily be following what Allah subhanho wa Taala would have revealed to us.

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And Allah subhana wa Taala says, and just to confirm the point that I was making what you had to be, was a connector and fusuma uhlmann Wailua. They recognize the truth as the truth. But you had we had they rejected it, right? They rejected it, but it's the connector and cusum their own cells were certain of it. But this is the truth.

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But they rejected publicly why Pullman Waterloo out of injustice and pride.

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I'm not going to be seen following this path,

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as the pride of the Meccans right.

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your followers are poor, saying to the prophets of Allah, and he will send them your prayer your followers are among the poorest. dismiss them and then we will sit with you. That's, that's arrogance. And Allah subhanho wa Taala wanted to erase that type of mentality and that type of feeling. No, all of you are equal before Allah subhana wa tada and there's a hadith. inshallah, that will code that will confirm this, but everyone is equal before Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. So, stubbornness or pride should never prevent you or prevent me from following the truth of Allah subhanho wa Taala, Adam.

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So the prophets, a lot of you seldom defines cube,

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as secular. So prophets already sent him define Skipper as rejection of the truth. And what's the other one?

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Looking down at people, this is how he defines it. And he defines it this way or Long Island, because this is the most definite and easiest way for you to recognize what pride is, because pride essentially, is a state of the heart. It starts with the heart

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is seeing that you are better than other people. That's what it is.

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But it has manifestation, external manifestations.

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consequences, so it's easier to see it and detected by its consequences, then you will know if there is given inside or not. So the first thing is rejection of the truth.

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And the idea that we mentioned here as what you had to be I was taken to San Juan Manuel Luba, they rejected the truth, but they recognize it inside, but the reason why they rejected it is out of arrogance, that is evidence that the person may know what the truth is, but decide not to follow it.

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The second type of rejection, or the second type of arrogance is for a person to despise the people who are around him

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to think that they are below him and beneath them.

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And this we do, either with because we possess something.

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And this thing we consider to be important than a value and when someone else doesn't have it, then he is below us.

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Could be money. A lot of people feel better about themselves because it well.

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Right? So I belong in one bracket one economic status and you belong in another. And because you belong in another, you're not in my level can talk to me, you can sit you can sit next to me, right?

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So it could be well,

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it could be a lineage for fathers where I come from, you know, my specific geographical region, my color, my tribe. So because we belong here, we're better than you.

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Although there is no any evidence for it, but that's what I have, I am better.

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It could be because of a profession or a degree or a title.

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It could be also because of I will talk about in that inshallah. So any of these reasons could be a reason why a person thinks I'm better than the people who are around me. And sometimes, in fact, there is no real reason. But what we do is that we go on glitch onto people's mistakes, and we exaggerate them.

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And then we focus on our value or our virtue and exaggerate them and when we don't find something wrong with someone else we invented. And when there is no something good about us, we invented just to make us feel that we better than the other person.

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So there is always this instant comparison that takes place. That's the basis of given. So you look at the other person and then you notice, okay, it's like you know, this computer screen. You notice, okay, he has these good things, these good things going for him.

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But I don't want him to be better than me.

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What false does he have, that you begin to listen to false next to the good things. And if you want to feel better about yourself, and to be superior, now we will focus on the mistakes, or he doesn't have this, and he's just has done this mistake. And he may be good at this thing. But I mean, he's blocking this other thing, that, but I on the other hand, I have what he's lacking.

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And I'm better than him because of these things. Thus I am better.

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And, as I said, often, we exaggerate and inflate the mistakes and the shortcomings of the other person and elevate ourselves.

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Now when it comes to lineage, and we can sort of do some chaos analogy, any other worldly thing, when it comes to lineage, Allah subhana wa tada hates boasting about lineage.

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being proud of it, and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam has this hadith for us. He says lantian vamonos Runa be obey Him and Athena to in Moo Johanna out a akuna when Allah Allah him in a journey that the you daddy who will be unfair.

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So he sets a law to send them, the people who are boasting about their deceased forefathers who are bought the charcoal of Hellfire are going to stop, or they will be more insignificant with a lot than the dung beetle that rolls dung with its nose.

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So he's speaking to people who are Muslims, who are feeling proud about their forefathers. And he's saying to them, their forefathers aren't janam now, yet you're proud of them. And feel better because you belong to them. He says, You're either going to stop this

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being proud of people who are in hellfire.

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Or you will be small or insignificant in the sight of a loss of power, rather than the beetle, this small insect

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that is were right next to excrements next to done

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and it's collecting that with its nose.

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Now for that beer, all right, what it's doing looks what very significant

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and maybe very honorable, you know, I'm collecting maybe I'm building my home, I'm doing this I'm doing that. But for a person that is looking at it looking at a beetle that is you know,

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dealing with excrement.

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So it's very disgusting. Say so Allah subhana wa tada is saying through his prophets, a lot of you send them the way that you look to me when you are boasting and proud of your parents, or proud of anything that is generally the way that you look to me is like that better looks to you.

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So disgusting.

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And that that actual instance where you are proud of something that Allah hates, it's like that beetle dealing with done that's how it is that's how it looks like. So he's saying you either stop or you will be like these people you will be very insignificant and Allah say, and eventually also very insignificant in the sight of people who are around you. Then Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, in a lot of uncom obeah tell JD

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Allah has removed from you the arrogance of Jamia, and it's boasting about its parents and his forefathers and its lineage. Stop it. Another way that we're seeing a lot cleared, you have this purified you have this don't go back to it.

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In mineral oil third, you don't shut it. Either. It's a pious believer or a miserable rebellious person. And that's

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all people are the children of Adam, Adam is from Santa.

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So that is what are you proud of?

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This person that you feel that you are better than him or her, he's your brother and sister.

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And don't be deceived by the difference in color to this difference in tongue.

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The difference you know, in the place where you're born, your brother and sister, your lineage is the same lineage eventually, you're coming from the same person.

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You know, you know, as the someone was joking, he says, you know, so and so you know comes from the family of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam which is honorable. And I told her and you also come from the family of the prophets, a lot of you send them who's Adam and he cinnamon. So

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everybody comes from the Prophet eventually, right? Either you come from the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. But maybe we're not fortunate enough to be there, at least your past three to two profits, not just Adam, who's the other one, know how to sell

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to your parents or to profits from the lot of banana. So the thing is that all of us

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are brothers and sisters and when you go back to Adam, Adam is from Santa. So Allah does not love that from anyone. And you look at who is the most humble,

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who is the most humble? It was the prophets of Allah, who are closest to him.

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There was like a couple of poetry that says roughly translated into English, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam rose up to the seventh heaven and beyond, and spoke to Allah subhanho wa Taala directly. And then when he came back, he was mending his shoes and patching his clothes.

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That is you have reached the highest level. It's like, you know, you going and meeting a king or meeting a president. And actually he's taking into a taking you into that inner chamber, nobody comes in, you're the only person and coming out of there are nobody made it but me.

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Look how much pride you will have. That when Allah subhana wa Tada, the prophet could have said, nobody made it to that spot, but me jabril did not make it. Right. He stood behind, he was left behind. Nobody made it with me. He had when he came back to LA to send them he was mending his clothes, fixing them.

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himself, there is no pride in him. And when Allah you know, honored him by the fact that clear FETs have taken Mecca, and he entered

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Mecca. Now as a victorious conqueror, right when you enter a place that you've just conquered, and was a thorn in your side, and it's your hometown, and you're coming back victorious after they've chased you out.

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And now, this is your opportunity. Now I'll show them right because that's what he could feel now I'll show them who I am. So when you come back, you can think of any you know, conquerors of the past, you come back with all the music and all the pomp and all the celebrations, declaring your victory. And he said a while you send them you have lowered his head so much it was almost touching the saddle, when he's going into my

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lord is that so much is touching his saddle. That's how much the lava he had solo and he was cinema.

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Now, this takes us he really beautifully into religious knowledge.

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Now, the fact is that the person who has

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religious knowledge should be the person most humble

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has the most power. But that may not be the case. That may not be the case. There are a person who acquires knowledge or he's a worshipper of Allah subhana wa tada especially in the beginning

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of his pursuit of knowledge or his pursuit of worship, but it could continue

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they can start feeling superior to everybody around them

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because they can note the difference

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and I started learning that the fear of the Quran now a blunt really informative zero in fact has a panel I learned so much I didn't know this before now I know it and then they start telling you and you know nobody in your family knows it. You only one who knows it and in your neighborhood no one knows that you're the one who knows it and almost everybody that you meet and this could be true almost every way that you meet no no does not know about it what you know.

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Right?

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So you begin to add knowledge right and to want to know more because you will be elevated higher and higher than the people around you. And you will begin to look at them as ignorant fools. What do you know? You don't even talk to me about this I know enough about this. Just listen. I studied this and I know about this etc etc. Same thing with people who may worship Allah subhana wa tada like the code that we have. You spend the night praying

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and then in the morning you say how many people actually did that normal hamazon you send them a few very few in the city very few see begin to admire what you're doing. And then he may actually do more but you're doing it because you're admiring yourself not because you love Allah you fear Allah He wants something from it because it adds to your own arrogance and you know feelings about yourself your self importance.

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everybody around you becomes your ignorance fools again, like animals. What do they know?

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Who are they?

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And you can feel it sometimes you know, from us. I'm not talking about you're looking at someone else you'd love from us. Who is he to come in? You know, tell me about this?

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Who is he to come and give me advice about that. To begin to stop taking advice and seeing everybody else beneath us.

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And that is a problem.

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Because true knowledge is supposed to increase your humility and not increase human arrogance.

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So

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Why doesn't it do that? They say that there is a couple of reasons why if we are increasing your knowledge, it doesn't help you. There are a couple of reasons why it's not doing that. A, you're focused on the wrong type of knowledge.

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Or you are actually focused on the right type of knowledge. But your intention is not right. So it's one of these to a focusing on the wrong type of knowledge for you at that moment. Like, for instance, a person may be studying.

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And there's nothing wrong absolutely wrong with studying physically, you should study fifth to know how to worship Allah subhanaw taala. But he'd be studying the details of what this person said and what that person said, and this argument and that argument, or it could be studied the science or the discipline of the study of hygiene. And this hadith and the greed of this had eaten that greed of that Hadith. And you will find yourself fighting with this person fighting with that person. And I'm right, and you're wrong, and you're wrong and right, or right, and your heart hardens. When you do this, and becomes a competition of who knows more, and who has better evidence, and who can

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defeat the other. So you're supposedly doing in

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that realm is not helping.

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And the person has to pay attention to it, whether you're a teacher or a student, so one of the educators

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or annually,

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he was telling his students after they've studied fifth, he says now that you've studied, and prayed that your hearts have hardened a little bit, stop and look at the life story and examples of the setup. So it can soften your hearts. So you always need this balance, that type of knowledge that can soften your heart. So there's so there's some type of knowledge, some type of religious knowledge, especially when you engage in it in some detail and some intricacy that can actually harden your hearts, especially when you're quarreling and arguing with someone else.

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So you need to go back to what is going to cure your heart from these diseases or you are focused on the right type of knowledge. But the intention is not what to benefit, then tended not to benefit. There's this still that disease and that disease is not being dealt with. So always brings its head back. There's always this gibbet or there's always this short how there is always this envy. So you are studying but it's not benefiting you.

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So when we find that the our religious pursuit is doing that we have of course to stop and switch and consider that what we're doing may not be for the sake of our last panel with Allah or it may not be for the right reasons. So it's not every religious pursuit is necessarily a valid religious pursuit. You have to set your check your intention, and you have to monitor also, and see if what you're doing is benefiting you or not. Now, when the person asked the Prophet sallallahu, to send them that

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one of us may love that. we possess nice things is this arrogance is this.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a large I mean on your ebook, Jamal, Allah is beautiful and he loves beauty.

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So here the prophets a lot he sent him is excluding from Cuba from arrogance, that desire that we may have to own nice beautiful things. He says this is not giving.

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And even more than that, in another narration.

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That person said to the prophets, a lot of you send them what cannot do it and Jamie that he was a handsome man.

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So he said to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in Nero, Julian could be the alien, Jim, and we'll see

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in

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a minute.

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He says, I am a person, he was handsome. And he says, I am a person who loves beauty, plus beauty in everything that is around me. And I love to own beautiful things. And when I own beautiful things, I love that no one would own something better than what I own. Even if it was the strap of my shoe, the lace of my sandals, even if that is the case, I don't like to have someone to own something better than what I own

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is this.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, and this is in Abu Dawood, and it's authentic, he says, No, this is not.

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Why because this person is not saying I want to own better than what they own. This is this is delicate, right? This is a delicate thing, is not saying I want to own and be better than them. He says, I don't want them to be better than me.

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equality for him is not a problem.

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But I own beautiful things and they own the same beautiful thing. That's not a problem for him, that we both be equal. What a problem is that I don't want them to own something better than me. So he does not want to be better than they are. He just wants to be equal to everybody else. And they possess it. They love them possess it. Like I own a beautiful

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Car let's say I want everybody to own a beautiful car I may hate that they own a better car. Right? According to another everybody's like that, but I may know that they own a better car. But if I add a beautiful car, let them own something as beautiful as I am, have as good a job as I do, have big houses I have, etc, etc. That's not capable the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying, Kibera is what it is for you to want to be better than everybody else. And to be says something that is more than what they have, which leads to rejecting the truth and despising people and looking at them with contempt.

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And that statement from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that Allah is beautiful and loves beauty or loves beautification, we you know, deserves you know, some explanation

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that Allah is beautiful, and Allah demean and some of the elements said this is this is one of the names of Allah Subhana Allah alleghany

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the law is beautiful and himself.

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That is one that won't be known would get to gaze at the face of Allah subhana wa tada on the Day of Judgment, they will see the most beautiful side that they've ever seen.

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So Allah Who is the generator and the creator of all of this beauty that we see around us, is the most beautiful thing.

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And that is something beautiful to know about Allah Subhana Allah that Allah in himself is beautiful, how we can imagine beyond whatever imagination but it's just really something beautiful to know about Allah. And Allah also is beautiful and his names and attributes. All of his names and attributes are beautiful and they reflect beauty and beautiful in his actions as well. All of his actions are beautiful.

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And he loves what

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beautification

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beauty and beautification Yani at the gym moon.

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There is if you were and if you have the intention that you want to beautify yourself, for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala within reason with moderation, right without over indulging without overspending that you want to do that that this is something that Allah subhana wa tada loves.

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You know, like for instance, when you come to the masjid,

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you know, and for you to beautify yourself because Allah subhana wa tada loves that. Allah subhana wa Taala rewards for it and loves that from you.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there are other examples you know, also beautifying yourself and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said in Allah you hit on your rasanya matteotti Allah wants to see the influence of his, upon his slave

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was if Allah had given you something, he wants to see the impact and the influence right and the trace of that on you.

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And another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, either attack Allahu Myrna Kaduna Allah if Allah subhana wa tada given you money had given you Well, let that be seen on you.

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Right? In the law, your head one euro,

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Allah subhanaw taala wants to see the trace and the impact of that upon his slave. What are your thoughts about the boss and he does not.

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And he hates showing need or exaggerating that when you are not in need.

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That is if you have Allah subhanaw taala blessed you and you have money by Allah Subhana Allah to Allah loves from you to show the effect of that on him again with moderation

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and doesn't like for instance that you show by the way that you dress and the way that you act, that you are poor and you're not

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because I've given you something

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so thank you and part of thinking is for you to wear something that fits on our last panel with that Allah has given you and you see from the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam that when symptoms he had something nice, especially for an occasion for aid for Juma when he received delegates, he would wear it and he would receive them with it, he would go out to dinner with it, he would go out to eat with it, and he wouldn't say I'm not gonna wear this.

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So this is part of also of the sin of the Prophet sallallahu it was in them.

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But here interestingly, also the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said to me in an email, avoiding luxuries from

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another family man, avoiding luxury is also from EMA. And you may think that there's contradiction between the two but there is no contradiction between them because these are two intentions that you can have,

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depending on your circumstance and your heart. So you can have one intention of I'm a person who is easily swayed by the things that I wear and arrogance.

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so easily attacks my heart.

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So it may actually be best for you that when you want to choose a type of clothing or a car or a house to choose the more modest one.

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Why? Because it's better for your heart.

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Exactly.

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Exactly. So that I have a choice, I can buy this car and I buy that car, maybe performance is the same, but one is expensive, and it will attract attention.

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And the other one won't, or one color will attract attention. And I will know I know for myself, when people look, it will affect me. And I will start admiring myself and my possessions because they're looking at me, if that is the case, what is most suitable for your heart is to choose the lower one.

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But there is another person on the other hand, who is not that particular thing that he's going to own is not going to affect him in that way. And he wants to actually enjoy it.

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And he wants to show he has that name of showing the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala on him. But yes, Allah has blessed me. And I want to show this again, without exaggeration, it will go by something like a handbag for $4,000. And you say I want to just show the demo the last panel that's wastefulness. But

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you want something, you know, within reason, and you want to say I want to show a demo on me, that person can purchase that thing.

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And there will be a good intention that our last panel data loves also, depending on your context, in so some of the alternatives that you can opt for the more modest one, because, you know, you want to be in solidarity with the people who are around you, a lot be very rich, but the people around you who are not aware that something like this, they'll feel miserable when they look at you. So you don't do it. And you will dress modestly, for their sake. That is from a man

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or you belong to a group or a neighborhood, right? where everybody's rich. And you come to them, you know, with the with the wool, you come out, you know, and you're in the functions or in the gatherings, you know, you're worrying something that's very cheap, you stand out,

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they start looking at you and what's wrong with him? And Is he crazy? or What is this and what is that and he has money and everything. So also to avoid

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that sort of talk and fought for what are what you're wearing not to be

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fair, they will identify you singling you out. Right? You will wear with what they're wearing. So it's important also to realize your context and for you not to stand out wherever you may be.

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Now, we want to come in sha Allah to the treatment of men who as we said, Now, Kippur is such a major sin

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and cable chases away.

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And if a person has given in his heart, he will not be admitted into Jenna. Now a person may have complete Kibera in his heart. And that would be disbelief. That would be like the people who rejected the messengers of Allah Allah, he would send them or had rejected the Quran.

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They have complete kibra in their hearts, and they did not have email or the person could have partially given some gift, even if it's very small.

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And if it is very small, it's a major sin and it can stop a person from entering gender until he is purified from that

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Allah could forgive it. Or he if Allah does not forgive, it may need to go into Hellfire to be purified from it and then after that he will enter General, but it's a major sin. And so panela

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no more all the love and when he heard that Hadith hadith of this chapter, had it have denied of the live November last reported that to him and when the live November last left in November was crying.

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And he asked him, Why are you crying? He says don't Didn't you hear what he told me and he narrated that Hadith and he says, if you have just an ounce of gibberish in your heart, you will not enter Paradise. And if I and you are people who monitor our hearts, you will know that so many times we have killed in our hearts. So many times, I'm better than him. I'm better than them. I'm better than these people. It's all a subpanel it's very difficult, very difficult for a person not to have given

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and you need to sort of to be always vigilant and to monitor Okay, this thought is entering my heart. I will administrate on the machine.

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And if I have discovered in my heart, I'm not the better or the best of those people. I'm the worst. I'm the worst. That when you're looking at other people and you're thinking, Oh, I'm better than him because I have more of this and he has less of that. Immediately. You should think to yourself now when I was looking at me, I'm the worst of those of those two. I'm the worst of the two when I'm making this video.

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parison because I'm the one who has given I know that's from my heart. And that demotes me and takes me away from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So I'm the worst of the two, not the best.

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I know about my faults, I don't know about that other person. And there are some interesting quotes here, I just want to mention that before we run out of time. So as for the treatment of given, we said with Shawn, there are two parts to it. knowledge based and action based knowledge base is for you to know that Allah hates it, and that this is an attribute an equality of the kuffaar. And that the person will be deprived from recognizing the truth and from following the truth, when he has given in it and will be deprived from entry into gender and will be demoted in the sight of Allah and in the sight of before people as well when he does that. And that all of us go back to the same

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origin and that origin is very humble, which is standard. So why should I have given

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so a man chases away Cuba with a man you will know Allah subhanho wa Taala and when you understand who Allah is, you'll understand how low we are and helpless we are in comparison to him.

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That were nothing without him. So how can I have given them? How can I be arrogant than

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and every time that I had kibra and had arrogant, it will ruin my good deed?

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So how many of my good deeds were actually safe?

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But there's also action based, like things that you can do.

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So the first comes from Dubai ignore multiman he's a Sahabi he says Yahoo Luna Thea T, rocket rocket, cool hemara Wallabies to Shimla tallapoosa Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, my father had a philosophy human and kidney shape. So he said, they say that I am arrogant. That is they accuse me or they you know talk that I am arrogant. But I wrote the donkey and wore the wolf seroma and milk the sheep and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the one who does this has no arrogance left in him.

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So it's modest, right?

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And modest dress and modest deeds or sort of sort of like physical menial actions.

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Right? So if you're going to write something and you find yourself sometimes that you have this arrogance, choose the humblest of rights.

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And do it

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right. Sometimes if you drive all the time and your car is expensive and the car is new and you think that that is doing something to you take the bus

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something take the bus walk

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choose a more humble right

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to treat that keyboard that is in us or you're wearing something and you feel you know puffed up and important that everything wears something humble a Shimla so he in his case, it was a Shimla something made from

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very humble fabric says where that something humble without denigrating yourself without humiliating yourself of course we'll talk about that inshallah. But Humble yourself

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and held up to share milking machine. So doing something doing something that an arrogant person wouldn't be doing. So, in another example, I believe Mr. Lambert, the law on who he was, he entered the market. And he had with him some

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with a bundle of wood on his back, so a bundle of wood, some wood and he was carrying that on his back.

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And he was in the market. So they asked him may

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not allow and so they asked him, Why do you do this and Allah subhana wa Taala had enriched you beyond the need to do this.

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You have enough money, you have people who can do this for you. Why are you carrying this wood wood on your back and entering the market? He said I wanted to destroy arrogance, or to an admit and

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I wanted to destroy arrogance. I heard the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say the one who has a mustard seeds worth of arrogance shall not enter Paradise.

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So carrying your own groceries, right, not all of us carry our own groceries unless you have a servant But anyway, right but doing something doing something right? That helping people carry this or carry that helping out the house helping outside the house. Something that anyone with arrogance or a phi and you have arrogance who say to himself I'm not going to do this that's beneath me then go ahead and do it and help because that will destroy help take arrogance away.

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Another I like these you know following coats of panela

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and it tells you that you should pay attention to yourself carefully. Pay attention to

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yourself. So back to like NaVi Jaffa. He said either canon moto you had the two families in the whole film scene where they can attack it and Gemma who suku Talia had

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he said that if one is in a gathering that kind of images and he's talking to people, and he starts admiring himself talking for them stop talking.

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And if he's quiet and he starts admiring himself being quiet to him start talking.

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And I don't know about you, but a lot of us right go through this you start talking, he say Mashallah is very good. What I'm saying is wonderful. I'm saying everybody's listening to it. It's, it's really to the point and very being very eloquent today. very eloquent today. It says, that's the time for you to stop talking.

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You said, but how can I stop talking? I'm on a roll. Right? I'm really doing good today. Notice that that's the way to stop talking. And sometimes so Pamela, see the opposite. You're very quiet. haven't said anything, but you will start admiring yourself for being quiet. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said praised you know, silence being very quiet.

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Or anything you know, I you know, I'm holding my tongue. There's no thing you add there's nothing you know, you're starting to admire yourself. It's now start talking. So whatever it is, write some you're admiring something here, do the opposite. Write your mind yourself from this angle do the opposite.

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And,

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and for when he says instapot and akuna.

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Can Lima in Kuta valleys and koruma blah sadita wasana solta Delica we're in intercompany Rwanda has an assault. ikkaku. Lisa, you've seen your head this way. So to be Hassan, has an academical shakalaka una Maria Nomura was condemned to ban him and then the government.

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He said IMO law, he says, If you can't, don't if you can, don't be the person who narrates Hadith. And a reader, like a person who reads in public, and another speaker. If you are eloquent, they will say how eloquent he is. And he talks so sweet. You know, his talk is so sweet. And he talks well, and how beautiful His voice is. So you admire that, and you puff up, and you admire yourself. But if you are not eloquent, and your voice is not nice, they say he can speak well, he can talk well, and his voice is not nice, she will feel bad about it and will be hard for you. And you will be showing up, because you've done that for their praise.

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But he says if you sit and talk and you don't care, and you're not paying attention, who's praising you and who's criticizing you then talk.

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So whenever you want to sit and talk, and that is very, very, very difficult to do. But it doesn't mean that we should stop trying that when you want to sit and talk if your attention is focused on what other people are saying. It says either they're going to praise you or either they're going to criticize you. And sometimes it's for things that you can't control. Your voice is nice, I can make it any better. That's my voice. Allah created me with that voice. He talks Well, I can't improve on that. That's, that's my ability. That's my skill, I can't do anything better. But they will either praise or criticize you for it. And if they praise you, your intention is wrong, and they criticize

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you your intention is wrong, as long as you're paying attention to them, it says but if you can sit and talk without paying any attention to what they're saying, it's not going to influence you then talk.

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Now, here in shall another two quotes of

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that comparison that we have with other people. Whenever you meet someone, I'm better than they are.

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So it hasn't says a global anthropogenic basic Muslim and in the itella, who for

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the Waldo, which is the opposite of cable is for you, when you leave your home. Whenever Muslim you see, you believe that they are better than you

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that they have something that you don't have.

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Now, you may know about this thing that they don't have. And you should believe because they have it, they're better than you. Or you may not know it. But you can at least say to yourself, I know about my sense, and I don't know about them. And because of that they are better than me. So kibber is the opposite of it. So when you come out of your home, and I when I come out of my home, and I think I'm better than the people that I see that's given.

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That's what

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you need. We need to work for the opposite. For you to start seeing and believing that everyone that you see is better than you. And you're the worst of people, not their best.

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And he says here and this is nice to have the law of galantamine, he says backroom Abdullah. He says if you see someone who is older than you, say Starbuck and even Emmanuel, Ambleside, he preceded me with a man and good deeds.

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If you see someone who is younger than you, you say I preceded him with sin.

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I have more sin with me that he does. For the older person, you'll say he has more good deeds and emails that I do. Well, either I take one or you Cremona. You have the munakata Paul Hakuna hobby. And if you see people are

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praising you and honoring you say, this is a good deed that they're doing that they're holding on to that they're honoring me, they're following the sin of the prophets of the law you're sending them. Then when the person starts and give you Salaam, first all the time, it doesn't mean Oh, because I'm honorable. That's what they're doing that to me. No, they're following the sin of the prophets a lot more than you do. That's why they're doing it. So whenever they're doing something nice to you they're doing this is a good deed that they're doing.

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So that makes them better, not worse.

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And if they are criticizing you

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say this is because of a sin that you've done.

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So they're doing something nice to you. It's their favor upon you. It's their good deeds that they're holding on to. And if they are, if they are criticizing you condemning you,

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not giving you your right to say it's not because they're evil, it's because of something wrong that I have done. Right.

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Now, the last thing in Sharla, that I want to say is

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this thing about the humbling acts and shall and that will be the end.

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I said do or let's perform humble, sometimes even menial physical acts, that will

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chase away arrogance.

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But inshallah should not be taken to an extreme.

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Because there was a group and this is long ago in, in Muslim history, there was a group of Muslims. And I mentioned this so that we understand how things can go to an extreme. They were called the meta meta,

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meta meta meta and Madonna manana. And because they want it to avoid arrogance.

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And praise of people, because it's just ruins their hearts. And anybody anybody's heard, because they wanted to avoid that the thing that they came out they came up with is, let's do things, okay, that are bad. Or they look bad in public.

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Or let's expose our sins.

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That way people will criticize us at any public respectability that we have will go away. And this way, we will change the chair save ourselves from

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meaning what, for instance, either that they will start telling people Oh, I'm a sinner, and this is my sin, and this is my sin, and this is my sin, be public with it, or they will fake it. So they will pretend, for instance, that they are drunk in public, right? Now, why are they doing that? Because when people notice them, they start doing what? blaming them, that's what their name come from.

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They start blaming them and criticizing them and cursing them. So they say find hamdulillah now I'm free from people's praise. And I don't have to bother about it, I don't have to worry about it. Right.

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And, of course, this is this lesson of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, or the way that they used to do it, to protect themselves from given to either share their sin with people or you know, to fake sin in public so that people will start suspecting them and condemning them. That wasn't the way that they used to do it, right. And here's a way where you want to do something good, you end up doing something evil at the end, because you're not following the son of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and they want that to be the lesson for me and for you. That is, when you want to purify your heart and my heart, you have to do it according to the sooner does the best guarantee that

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you're going to attain your objective. When you start, you know, going left and right. Ultimately, you want to attain your objective because what happens if, in you, all of us want to purify our hearts and we fake since public sins, what happens?

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Right since become public, because they don't know that I'm lying about it, sin becomes public, and everybody starts thinking that everybody's drinking.

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Right? So everybody will start drinking. Because it's a public sin now and it's more acceptable

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or not, how does a person become more acceptable? You know, when a person does it, then second, third and fourth, it becomes public, and it spreads.

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So the right way to do it is to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and we've given some examples here. The knowledge base right or the internal part is to have a man in Allah subhana wa tada and appreciate his damage upon us and that nothing that we can do is enough and that if it's mixed with cable, Allah will reject it.

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And to prove

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deeds and actions that will chase Awakener by staying away from luxurious things, and things that increase arrogance in our hearts. And by doing actually physical acts that will humble us, you know.

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And that is one of the ways that we can insha Allah deal with kibble and it's not a panel or a lecture or two or 10 this is something that if we remind ourselves with every month would not be too much. Because one of those perennial and eternal, almost eternal things that don't leave is shorthand

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rolls out.

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So we need to ask Allah Subhana Allah to protect us from it. And to protect us from sure and to make us aware of our own mistakes and when that enters our hearts so that we can fix it immediately and not belittle the people who are around us, which allows us to come low here for listening. And I hope that this was beneficial and I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to makers of those who listened to it we listened to and we apply it because the most important thing is that we apply it so I asked a lot to make use of those people szczepanik a long way behind the shadows

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and stuff will go into 100